[katheryn]

its christmas and joy to all, but when something upsets you that much, what do you do, wel i tell you about it then you can give me your feedback

well as the story goes hubbys brother got with my niece, and have a great little boy they are not togeather at this time, things didnt work out, now i knew that niece lived in a flat near us but wasnt sure were, i never had anything to do with her as she was growing up coz her mum divorced my brother before he was taken ill and passed away, bk when she was about 18mths i do know shes had a step father who is a taxie driver

i know this is turning into a long story, well i tried to give her christmas gifts and easter eggs not sure if she ever got them, so know she has a little boy my great nephew we decided to buy him something and needed to drop it of, but we found out she was calling out to my mother in laws to pick up the babys daddy to take him into hers for first christmas which is great, so we called there to drop pressie of as thats roughly were we were

well this is what made me mad she drives a smart car a small two seater car, so i sugested as we noticed she had the child with her that we gave brother(childs dad) a lift bk into town were she lived as carrying a child on your lap in front seat is not safe and against the law and this time of year the police are out and about

well we met up with her outside her place dropped brother of, and watched as she took child out of front seat not forgetting there is only two seats, this child was only restrained with a adult seat belt no child seat not even a coushin grr i was s o mad but i bit my tounge and carried on took our kids to mcds were hubby txted his mum saying how upset he was, and his mums reply was thats nothing sometimes the child is on the floor in the foot well grrr i am so mad but not sur how to go about putting a stop to this

i am still not sure if she has apriote tax and insurance and licence on this car

grrr

How about an anonymous tip to the police? Some people won't do the right thing until forced to...

[katheryn]

yes i know what you mean, i knew about this but i hadnt seen it with my own eyes so i was hoping they were not putting this child in danger, i am a driver but only within the last 8yrs even before that children not restrained properly would cause me to get uptight, i am afraid that if we dont say something it will end up one day being to l;ate especially after the icy conditions we have had receantly, so many accidents on wed morning including a coach and this is a very small car wouldnt take much for it to be squisshed

[eskielover]

I understand the feeling about knowing how bad something would possibly be. A dangerous little car & a child being unrestrained. If you do nothing & something happens, then you would feel guilty. Knowing what to do about it is another story.

The person I am sure would just blow you off....things like that wouldn't happen to her or her child. You might call the police & ask them about how to approach a situation like that as you know it's dangerous. Unfortunately, there are some situations that there is NO solution to. If you get Child Protective Services involved, that would be overkill & may not have a good outcome either.

There are some things we just have to weight out the options, weigh out the outcomes & then possibly realize there is nothing that can really be done & the only protection is to pray for the safety of the child & that nothing will happen.

I always hate it when it seems that the only solution is to do nothing....I just don't like that answer most of the time....but many times it's how it ends up. I usually don't accept that unless I have looked into all the possibilities first.

Have a blessed Christmas in spite of the irritations,
eskielover

[katheryn]

i stil am not sure what to do so i spoke to my brother his daughter and his ex to see what they sugest to do about this niece of ours and her son

i need some advice, saw niece yesterday christmas eve, she drives a smart car not sure if shes passed her test or no or got right insurance or tax, as i only saw her get in car and out of car, she had bailey with her she was picking up baileys dad from his mums(hubbys mums), intending on carrying him and bailey and her self in a two seater car so i said i would give the dad a lift into town were she lives it wasnt until we pulled up that i saw she took baby of the passenger seat only restrained with the plain ole seat belt, so declan texted his mum and said about it and she replied sometimes they put the baby in the footwell, i was so mad i am not sure what to do about this as i dont think its safe to carry a baby like this in a car, wondering what or if you would do , thinking that this is our brothers grandson

love kathy

i have recieved a reply from my brother he is going to talk to a few ppl, his daughter said" have u told her that its dangerous. if u have u need to to find out if u need to talk to the police. before something bad happens!!! not a nice situaton to be in but rather do someting now before its to late"

so i am thinking about msging her on facebook but thats seems a bit cowardly

[fearfulfrog]

I would call the police and ask advice. I believe that your concerns (and now mine to!) need to be expressed to the driver- e-mail, private message on facebook or snail-mail. If behavior doesn't change maybe 'google' articles about children killed in accidents due to improper child restraints- maybe that will impact her! If this doesn't work, I would call child services- she is putting that child in danger even more so than if she left the child alone!