Well, I managed to find my step-brother on facebook tonight (because I found out just the night before mom found him on facebook and saw him with a picture of his little girl who I've wanted to see since well... she was born) we havn't been in contact with him for years. It would be nice to at least say hi but I know it probably isn't a good idea. I only say this because even though he has never been mean to either me or my brother (or his little sister who is my other step-sister) personally... let's just say he has a history that isn't very bright when it comes to relationships.

It just makes me feel bad because I've never liked the lack of communication to begin with and I really do want to talk ... because well, he's my brother (and I have a niece now!) even though other family who know a different side of him tell me it's not a good idea.

[Ascension]

I think maybe you should discuss it with your treatment team, so you can weigh the pros and cons and make the best decision. But I hope you do what is best for you and your close ones.

[Stranger2]

I think you should talk to him.. I didn't talk to my family for six years and then my wife got pregnant... So I broke down and called my mom and told her..They all came up after she was born..Since then it has braught the family closer..I'm sure he is full of pride and would want to share the experience..

So I was emailing my stepsister and she says he hasn't changed...
but also that I shouldn't let what other people do dictate what I do and that if I love him and want to have a relationship with him then I should.

but I'm going to have to think about if for awhile...

[Miracle1986]

Trust your gut...

at first I wanted to but now I don't, thinking if I do then something bad will happen.

I'm sick of people controlling me.

[KathyM]

((Kaika)) I agree with Miracle.

It's YOUR decision to make. Trust your gut, and do what feels right.