[Merlin]

I just had a fun night with a relatively new friend. We've been talking about moving in to a basement suite as roommates for the last few months, but I've been kinda waffling on it, but I think I might just be ready to now. I ended up moving back home a year and a half ago because I'd dropped out of school as a result of my depression. I have some suicidal crisis during that time and one just a few weeks ago, but I think I've changed, I asked for and got the help I needed and I think that represents a huge shift for me and maybe that it's time to move fully in the phase of independent college student. I'll still see my therapist and rely on the support of my friends and family, but I won't depend on them for financial support. Part of me is afraid that this is too much too fast, but part of me thinks this could really provide the momentum to get my life back together. Just tell me what you think.

Laura

[January]

Hi Laura,

I think you should talk to your t before you make your decision. I know this isn't a yes or no answer like you want, but he or she knows aspects of your situation that we don't. Whatever you decide, I wish you joy and peace.

Many hugs,

Jan

[Merlin]

I fully intend to talk to my t about my decision, but it's my decision and I don't want it to feel like asking for permission I guess.

[jmo531]

I think it would be a good move. I guess because moving out of your parents house is the next step. Talking to your T is good, but your right, ultimately, it is your decision. Just make sure that you feel in your heart that this is the right thing for you.

[(JD)]

I wouldn't use the word stupid for this. I would think it is too soon. "A few weeks" is not long enough of a stable mood upon which to base such a big change. I vote no.

Your T is your consult. But if you already have your mind made up that you aren't going to listen to what T says, then you are wasting your time and money for the expert opinion. Your T should have your best interest in mind, and has nothing personally to gain from you staying or moving. If it will work, then it will work after several more months of staying home, and keeping your emotions under control. Take the same amount of money you would spend on sharing, into the bank, and then when you are ready, you'll have that too to help you!

[Merlin]

I do feel in my heart that this is the right decision. Though I had a bit of a crisis a few weeks ago, I had been relatively stable for a few months when that happened. I like to think of it a blip and perhaps also an attempt to test the supports I did have. I did not say that I wasn't going to listen to what my t says, just that I'm not going to seek his approval of it. If, when I talk to him he has persuasive reasons not to move out of my mom's house then I won't however when I go talk to him I'd mainly like to discuss what would maximize my success in moving out. I would like to move now rather then later for several reasons. My roommate is looking to move out now. The are a lot a places available right now which may not be so later. I'm not working, just attending a few classes so I have the time to find a place and move in, and find a job to pay for rent before my workload from school increases in the fall semester. I'm not, at least in my opinion, behaving restlessly, I just want to move on. I have support from my friends and family in my decision as well.

Laura

[dayzee9]

My Dear lightand dark: I think you answered your own question when you put that "quote" at the bottom of your post...you know yourself the best.....read it a few more times and then have a really great "rap session" with yourself! Follow your heart & the "light" shall depart from the "dark" & only then, will your answer show itself to you!

PEACE TO ALL WHO ENTER HERE...... DAYZEE