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Something about anger I wanted to share
Anger management is a master skill. It is a skill that allows you to learn other skills. Without it anger, is not just the result of our experience, but the lens through which we see new experiences. Without life becomes by definition stress ridden, as more and more, anger and recrimination, attack and counterattack, resentment and vindictiveness seem more and more normal. For some people anger becomes not what it seen of life, but the method by which life is seen. Anger is remarkably seductive. It gives you a sense of righteousness and a rush of power. It carries its own sense of logic, that once you fall under its spell is remarkably hard to refute. It becomes the way we identify ourselves. I remember one anger management class where one 13 year old boy was the star. It was apparent as the class went on that he knew the concepts and seemed to be able to use the techniques. Towards the end of the class he turned to the instructor and said, "You know you really know your stuff. Some of the things you have talked about really make sense..... But I dont think I will ever use any of it..." The crestfallen teacher asked, "Why????????" The boy replied quietly, "Well you know-- its just not me." I have known many people, particularly young people, who have basically self-destructed because they did what seemed like it "made sense" at the time. The decided to "teach someone a lesson" or show someone "they couldnt be pushed around" or had to show "how tough they really were." I remember one kid who told me it was "all a matter of respect." The fact that he had given up years of his life for literally minutes of respect didnt really seem to connect with him. Anger management, for many, is a crucial foundation setting part of recovery. Recovery is about setting out goals and plans, and it is so hard to do that when your perceptions are skewed and you are prone to be emotionally hijacked. Recovery is about building and maintaining relationships with people and it is hard to do either when you are constantly embroiled in conflict. Recovery is about learning to forgive, learning to be thankful and finding hope. Chronic anger is incompatible with all those. Here is a quick anger management plan. It doesnt cover everything, but nothing quick ever does:
It is a master skill. Make yourself master of your life. (from http://hopeworkscommunity.wordpress.com) Last edited by dogwood; May 02, 2010 at 07:12 PM. |
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Thanks for sharing.
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