[wisewoman]

Well, so it's an odd title. I got an invitation to a high school reunion today. I have not been back or seen these people since grad night and one heck of a party. And now this invitation for another reunion. I just may do it. How much have we all changed in 30 years? Could be fun. The questionaire asks us about grand children... Bite their tongues.

Also, I was supposed to go get my dental sutures removed tomorrow and I just did it. They were bugging me. Now I can wait until we are ready for a bridge.

This high school reunion is bound to have very sad times so I think I will not go. Maybe stay where others are staying and see friends I would like to see. There have been so many deaths and lost minds. Help me to decide, go or not?

[Myzen]

Hi Wise,

Reunions are a big question, fraught with all sorts of emotions.

I honestly can't give an opinion myself but it would be a great question for PC survey. My guess is that the odds would come out at 90% against going, but that's only my own hunch.

Cheers, M

PS - Teeth can be a bit difficult as well!

[wi_fighter]

My 25 year reunion was just last month. I didn't go because I'd lost a tooth. I should have gone.

[Parker10]

My vote is to GO ! You will see people that you spent so many years with , old friends, and make new friends at a Reunion. I havent missed any of mine, we have them every 5 years, and my 35 is coming up in 2007 and I can hardly wait for it !!! Unfortunately my Class has now lost 19 members. Every Reunion there is a table with a rose beside a name card for them, and we honor them that way. Sad - of course, but we never forget them, and it's a special part of the evening to honor them.

I think the neatest thing about going back to a Reunion is that so many of the "nerds", "uppity snoots", etc, are some of the nicest people I have ever known. They were sorta "outcasts" while in school, but thank heavens we all matured enough to take time to get to know them at the Reunions, and some of those folks are now people I keep in contact with alot. I am only sorry I didnt know them while in HS !

I hope you do go and fill us in afterwards about having a wonderful time ! (If you can take a guest - I volunteer .......cause I love Reunions and would probably enjoy yours as much as my own ! )

Hope your mouth feels better soon.

i'd go.

[Rapunzel]

What are the reasons you would like to go, and the reasons you don't want to? Once you have figured out your reasons both ways, you could look at them and see which reasons sound better to you.

For example, well, nobody that I went to high school even knows where I am, so I have never gotten an invitation to a reunion. Part of me wonders if anyone would remember me at all, and would like to find out, because I think I don't exist in that world anymore. Part of me would like to use it as a stick to beat myself if I found out that they don't in fact remember me at all, and that I don't matter in that world. Part of me says it just wouldn't be worth it to travel that far. Part of my hurts because I want to be remembered, and to have a connection with my past. It's a tough question. I don't know about you, but I have a tendency to deny myself going to events that I know I'll regret missing, just to hurt myself. Like I didn't go to my own university graduation (and they gave me like three different chances to be part of one), and I said it didn't matter and wasn't worth the travel and taking time off work, and I wouldn't know anyone there anyway. Do you do that?

Maybe look at what would be the most positive choice for you? Meeting with just the people you want to see sounds like a good option, if you would like to see them but don't actually want to be at the reunion. How far away is it?

[jennie]

go

[wisewoman]

I have a friend who now lives in Alaska, we were friends all through schooling and have seen eachother once since that night. I would love to see her. There are a few others that I would also like to see. I saw one at my sister's wedding 15 years ago and she acted like she didn't know me. I wonder what it is that we now share? That was a life time ago in a place far away and memories of abuse associated with that are. However, it would be a chance to see who people have become. I may go, I have to talk my spouse and maybe my son to go with me. Thanks.