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I'm going to ask one of my doctors on Monday during an appt I have for a checkup, but considering how little time I have spent with him, I don't expect a complete answer (because he doesn't really know me personally), and I thought I would place this here for practical replies that aren't 'medical' in nature (He can answer that end of it on Monday). So here goes: at what point should a person become alarmed about a rather radical personality change -- even if the changes are good? I posted elsewhere that I think I used to have anxiety but not even know it because I didn't know what anxiety was -- I still think that is true. But for the last year or so, I haven't felt much anxiety on an ongoing, daily basis (like I think I used to have big time!). I used to fret and worry on an ongoing, daily basis. I used to get upset - a lot, often (I mean inside, not that I screamed and cried), about a lot of things. Now I am unconcerned about most of the things that used to upset me. I have purposefully tried to overcome my dismay, upset, etc.; over the last few years I started taking better care of myself physically; I changed to a different career; I started standing up to some abuse I was getting; when I would have unhappy thoughts I would give myself permission to stop thinking that way and to concentrate instead on something happier in nature; I started doing some fun things just because I wanted to. I started to pray consciously for strength and patience and courage; I asked God specifically to help me; I've sought out people who were nice and talk to them and purposefully avoid people who make me unhappy. In addition to all of this I'm on the other side of menopause; I'm more forgetful but I don't think it's extreme; mainly I seem to have forgotten all my cares and woe, if you know what I mean. On the one hand I say 'that's a good thing' but on the other I think I should at least question 'due to God and lifestyle changes' or 'brain tumor/hardening of the arteries'? Can anyone relate? Like I wrote above, I am going to ask my (gyn.) doctor if this is likely hormone-related, and I plan to ask my family doctor for a physical. But as I have posted elsewhere, she is so non-communicative as to be almost worthless. So, thoughts, anyone?
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It sounds like you have worked hard to recognize and deal with your emotions as they come up. I think that is all we can do; whether they are unconscious, limbic/hormonal responses or based on patterns we learned in our childhood and later find not useful. I don't see anything alarming at all in your story; but rather feel you are due congratulations for figuring out what you wanted/needed for yourself and going to get it. It took me many years of therapy and outside help to figure those things out.
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I feel you did act on what worried you, IceCreamKid, by ignoring the things that weren't important; you actually looked at whether what you worried about was worth acting on or not. I like my tag line because it reminds me to "do" something, not just think, and you did something by distracting or deciding not to think about what worried you because you didn't find it important enough to think about. You "let go" and that is as much an action, and often as hard as, deciding to change jobs for less stress or more happiness, etc.
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I didn't take your comments as criticism; I just feel very complementary toward you for what you have done with your worries. I don't believe any worries are worth thinking about because a worry is about something that hasn't happened, an imagined, possible future event and we cannot know the future and our imagination is notoriously limited in its ability to predict future events well.
The only "thinking" I think one should do about one's own worries is to identify them and then how to put them "at rest." Some can be ignored easily, using logical countering thoughts and others one has to figure out an action that will make their point moot, such as worrying about a co-worker so you decide to change jobs which takes that co-worker and worrying about them out of the picture.
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I wish you well, IceCreamKid.
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