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Oct 28, 2005, 12:51 PM
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im finding things dificult because i have a friend who i like to have a chat to know and again but am very careful what i say to her because her son is the father of a persons baby who i speak to, they are no longer togeather but i speak to them all, i try not to get into a conversations involving anythimg to do with any body else because i have and or had enough priblems of my own to listen to ppl bad mouthing over ppl , i didnt even do this when a person betyrayed me and interfered in my marriage , so when this young mother decides to get her baby christend she asks me not to say anything to the babys dad or the babys gran whos my friend , this was last night so while out shopping today i recieved a txt asking me if she was getting baby christend on such such date , i felt that what ever i do i would betray someone i felt phisicaly sick by being put in this poistion i txt back and asked were the information had come from and left it at that letting the gran come to her own conclusions, it know makes me feel like i am playing piggy in the middle i dont need this as i got to work on my own problems
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Oct 28, 2005, 02:46 PM
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Maybe you can establish some boundries with these people.
It is ABSOLUTELY UNFAIR to put you in the middle like that. I can see how from their point of view they may think it is the only way to get the information they seek but you may have to put your foot down if you can. "Listen I'm not going to be the go-between for you two, you are both my friends and I won't be a stool pidgeon on her actions for you just as I won't be a stool pidgeon on your actions for her. If you two have issues involving your child, you two have to work it out yourselves like adults. That is the only thing that is fair for you and for the baby." Or maybe when one asks for information, give them the other's phone number (although I am sure they already have it) and maybe they will get the hint. You should not have to give up your right to be friends with them and get the support they have to offer for you just because they are acting immaturely with regard to each other. It is not your responsibility, so don't eat yourself up over it. Good luck, I know it is a difficult situation.
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