This is just me venting out my feelings because I can't bottle it all up. I don't know whether this is jealously or me lacking love but I feel like I don't mean much to people. On facebook, I see my friend's friends who are much prettier than me. I think to myself I don't mean much to people. Maybe I should stop caring and let people do what they want. I once went onto someone's pictures and it was photography and it was so good. I like taking pictures but mine are rubbish. This might trigger me to hurt myself because it upsets me. I feel like I want my things to be good and better. I'm a shy person in my opinion, I can't really make a conversation. I do have conversations with friends on-line but I reckon I'm just boring. There's something in me which wants attention and care, I might want it because I don't get attention at home from my mum who has been horrible to me before. I believe that I'm liked here on pschycentral and I go on a lot because I feel that this forum is an escape from all of the grief.

[PleaseHelp]

I know it is difficult, but try not to compare yourself to others. I'm sure the pictures you take are beautiful. And wanting attention is a very normal thing. It's also good to vent your feelings. PM me anytime you want. I try to get back to them as soon as I can.

Originally Posted by PleaseHelp

I know it is difficult, but try not to compare yourself to others. I'm sure the pictures you take are beautiful. And wanting attention is a very normal thing. It's also good to vent your feelings. PM me anytime you want. I try to get back to them as soon as I can.

Yeah maybe I shouldn't compare myself with others. Thank you I feel like I'm an attention seeker

[PleaseHelp]

I think all of us seek attention now and then. I know for me personally, I didn't get much attention or praise as a child, so now its like I still NEED it. Even though it seems silly I need someone to say thank you - for doing the dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc. I know it drives my BF crazy! Hang in there!

Originally Posted by PleaseHelp

I think all of us seek attention now and then. I know for me personally, I didn't get much attention or praise as a child, so now its like I still NEED it. Even though it seems silly I need someone to say thank you - for doing the dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc. I know it drives my BF crazy! Hang in there!

I'll try to hang in there.

[sundog]

(((((((((((happycheeks)))))))))))))) Your photos are soooo NOT rubbish. I've seen the ones in your album here and they are GREAT!!! Seriously, they are really good. Also, I've seen photos of you here and you are very pretty!!

The trouble is, however good we are at a particular skill or hobby, there are always going to be people who are better than us. I think the trick is to make a conscious decision NOT to compare yourself with other people, but, instead, to enjoy the skill or hobby that you have - for example, photography - for it's own sake. The important thing is that you enjoy the process of going out with your camera and taking photos. That's what really matters. Plus, as I say, your photos ARE good!!!

I know it's really hard not to compare ourselves with others. Especially if we're already feeling down or negative about ourselves. But it's just a fact that there will always be someone better or prettier than us. However, that does NOT mean we are worthless. It just means it doesn't do any good comparing ourselves with others!!!

On the other hand, there are always going to be people worse off than us too. So if we're going to compare ourselves with anyone, then it makes more sense to feel grateful that we have more than people who are really struggling to get by.

Generally though, comparisons suck!

In any case, I think you are GREAT!!! And I'm sure plenty of other people here do. So try not to be so hard on yourself ((((((((((((happycheeks)))))))))))))))

[venusss]

How about focusing this energy you spend on worrying into learning to master photography? If you have the time... decicate it time each day. Look at tutorials,, go out and take pictures. You will see how you'll improve... but mostly of all, do it for yourself not for others.

Originally Posted by sundog

(((((((((((happycheeks)))))))))))))) Your photos are soooo NOT rubbish. I've seen the ones in your album here and they are GREAT!!! Seriously, they are really good. Also, I've seen photos of you here and you are very pretty!!

The trouble is, however good we are at a particular skill or hobby, there are always going to be people who are better than us. I think the trick is to make a conscious decision NOT to compare yourself with other people, but, instead, to enjoy the skill or hobby that you have - for example, photography - for it's own sake. The important thing is that you enjoy the process of going out with your camera and taking photos. That's what really matters. Plus, as I say, your photos ARE good!!!

I know it's really hard not to compare ourselves with others. Especially if we're already feeling down or negative about ourselves. But it's just a fact that there will always be someone better or prettier than us. However, that does NOT mean we are worthless. It just means it doesn't do any good comparing ourselves with others!!!

On the other hand, there are always going to be people worse off than us too. So if we're going to compare ourselves with anyone, then it makes more sense to feel grateful that we have more than people who are really struggling to get by.

Generally though, comparisons suck!

In any case, I think you are GREAT!!! And I'm sure plenty of other people here do. So try not to be so hard on yourself ((((((((((((happycheeks)))))))))))))))

Yeah, maybe I should concentrate on my hobby and on the good things about me. Thanks for the advice

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

How about focusing this energy you spend on worrying into learning to master photography? If you have the time... decicate it time each day. Look at tutorials,, go out and take pictures. You will see how you'll improve... but mostly of all, do it for yourself not for others.

Yeah maybe I should focusing on photography. Then again you could be saying I'm rubbish at the hobby I like doing Anyway thanks for the advice.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Yeah maybe I should focusing on photography. Then again you could be saying I'm rubbish at the hobby I like doing Anyway thanks for the advice.

I am not saying that. I have not seen your works, so I cannot judge. Does not matter.

Everybody can improve. And the more you know about photography, the more you can judge your own work if it is good or not. But I believe art should be done with higher aims than having it "liked" on facebook. Many great painters were not understood in their time...

And with photography there are many styles... I don't really like many of contemporary fads, but it does not make it trash. You need to be judge... it can happen that after some time you will move on to something different and not be fond of your former works.

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

I am not saying that. I have not seen your works, so I cannot judge. Does not matter.

Everybody can improve. And the more you know about photography, the more you can judge your own work if it is good or not. But I believe art should be done with higher aims than having it "liked" on facebook. Many great painters were not understood in their time...

And with photography there are many styles... I don't really like many of contemporary fads, but it does not make it trash. You need to be judge... it can happen that after some time you will move on to something different and not be fond of your former works.

Ohh sorry. I understand what you're trying to say

[IceCreamKid]

I like seeing you on the site Happycheeks. You probably didn't know this, but I don't mean much to many people, either. My family didn't want me and that is a hard hurdle to overcome, one I am still working on. But even so, I find nice people just about everywhere I go. If you are not as good at photography as you'd like to be, then you have a goal for yourself: to improve. I'm so terrible at photography that I can ONLY improve! I have it as one of my goals. I want to learn to take good pictures so I can capture the love I have for animals on film. I hope by your coming here and posting your thoughts and getting replies from people you will learn to recognize the good and delightful that is in yourself and your abilities. I send you

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

I like seeing you on the site Happycheeks. You probably didn't know this, but I don't mean much to many people, either. My family didn't want me and that is a hard hurdle to overcome, one I am still working on. But even so, I find nice people just about everywhere I go. If you are not as good at photography as you'd like to be, then you have a goal for yourself: to improve. I'm so terrible at photography that I can ONLY improve! I have it as one of my goals. I want to learn to take good pictures so I can capture the love I have for animals on film. I hope by your coming here and posting your thoughts and getting replies from people you will learn to recognize the good and delightful that is in yourself and your abilities. I send you

Thank you for your advice Yeah I agree

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Thank you for your advice Yeah I agree

I said film! Not too many people use film anymore, do they? I'm a dinosaur!

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

I said film! Not too many people use film anymore, do they? I'm a dinosaur!

Ahh I didn't notice ahh xD