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Oct 28, 2005, 06:31 PM
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being a married couple for nearly 14 yrs when we seperated the huisband had brief relationship with someone else now back togeather again , my question to all of you is what would your response be to husband wanting contact and possible friedship with this female
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Oct 28, 2005, 06:39 PM
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Hi katheryn. I would have to tell him that I couldn't handle him having contact with her because I don't think I could. I would hope that he would respect my feelings and not have contact with her. If he wouldn't, I think I would have some decisions to make.
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Oct 28, 2005, 06:47 PM
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I would have to tell him I diddnt feel comfortable with it and that I wouldnt be able to handle it. It would only cause problems.
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Oct 28, 2005, 08:10 PM
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I would say thanks but no thanks
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Oct 28, 2005, 08:50 PM
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I would definitely tell him that you are not comfortable with this, and that he needs to respect your request that he not have contact of any kind with her. IMHO - it seems like he is sorta keeping the door open with her if you and he don't stay together. I would definitely put my foot down with a very loud "NO" !
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Oct 28, 2005, 10:19 PM
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For me it would be NO WAY
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Oct 28, 2005, 11:33 PM
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Under most conditions, I would say it is important for you to let each other have and keep your own friends unless they are destructive influences...
But this is not a normal condition. He broke your trust with this woman. You are back together, but he still has to regain (earn) your trust. Asking him not to have any contact with this woman is a resonable step for him to take to help work toward that goal. And honestly, it would have been nice if he understood that and hadn't asked you about it in the first place.
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Oct 28, 2005, 11:40 PM
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I agree with the others. I'd definately ask him to have no contact with her. In some situations, remaining friends is fine, but in this case, IMO it's inappropriate. Just my two cents.
Ry
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Oct 29, 2005, 05:09 PM
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thank you all for responding i have allready made my choice how to handle this just needed other ppls opions , my husband didnt leave me for this female its just the trouble she caused for me over the last few months that all the support i gave her over the years and the friedship we had meant nothing to her he knows i will not renew my friedship with her
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Oct 29, 2005, 10:09 PM
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Sounds like you know what is best. Renew friendship? who is it expecting you to keep the friendship? My opinion for sure is take care of you and not worry about their stuff!!!!! they didn't.
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Oct 30, 2005, 07:31 AM
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i havent been asked to renew this friendship, my husband wants closure with this f they havent spoken since that fatfull weds when she ended the relationship and my husband ended up in hosp, it all ifs and buts about a friedship we will just have to wait and see wat comes about
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