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Oct 30, 2005, 08:33 PM
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I am new here and I am looking for helop to cure my gambler-son. He think that he is not a gambler. However, I think he is on the first stage. He spend not a large amount for gamble. And he also think that can stop any time. However, he is very angry when we accuse him with gambling.
I decided to tell him that he won't be supported in his famaly, parents. He was angry but, he wants to talk. What do I have to do further? Oleg |
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#2
Oct 30, 2005, 08:45 PM
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Hi Oleg,
I think you made a good first move. You're right to tell him he's on his own in this. You love him, that will never change, but you can't support his gambling. I'm not to sure about the next move, but I think it might be his. If he really would like to talk, there is gamblers anonymous, which is similar to AA. People can learn to deal with this addictive behavior. He'll have to be able to admit there's a problem, and want to deal with it, however, which are things only he can decide about. Good luck, Quay |
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#3
Oct 30, 2005, 08:50 PM
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Where can we find anonymous gamblers on line?
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Oct 30, 2005, 08:56 PM
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Oct 30, 2005, 09:04 PM
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I want to find out what is the next move. The son doesn't recognize that he is sick
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Oct 30, 2005, 09:29 PM
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There is a "20 Questions" page on that Gambler's Anonymous link.
However I think there is nothing you will be able to do until he recognizes he has a problem. He is going to have to want to get help for himself in order for anything to really help. Of course you can do your part by not supporting him in gambling... i.e. never loan him money to cover gambling debts, not making it easy to shurck other responsibilities to go gambling, etc. If he becomes angry over this, point out that his getting angry about it is a good sign that he has a problem.
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Oct 30, 2005, 10:11 PM
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gambling is like any other addiction. you can't make him want to quit or make him quit. it is totally up to him. he first has to admit there is a problem. you are right to tell him you will not support this problem of his. very good move there. be strong in that hon.
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Oct 31, 2005, 11:45 AM
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Thank you very much for your help. I will do my part, I want to make some steps every day so that he will understand that he is under control and cannot escape. I don't know how to make him understand that there is a problem. Could you also tell me, if I ask the police to help me, they can? I know, that at his job they made something and they every time put with his friends some money for games (footbal and others). They put cash and one of them takes this money, if they lose, he get 7 %, and takes other money to somebody else. If this is illegal, can I ask the police to help me? I just want to cut all other supportive gambling friend out of him
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Oct 31, 2005, 03:31 PM
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The police can't really help either unless they caught him gambling in something other than a legal gaming thing. You can call one of the 12 step programs and talk to them about your concerns and support for yourself. other than that not alot you can do except pray and pray some more that he will wake up and realize just what he is doing hon. good luck and I will be here for you anytime.
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Oct 31, 2005, 03:32 PM
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Oleg, how old is your son?
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:32 PM
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my son is 26
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:33 PM
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What is 12 steps program and where do I have to call, what is the number?
Thank you, Oleg |
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:36 PM
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My son is 26 yo. What is 12 steps program and where I have to call?
Oleg |
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:41 PM
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Oleg, if you do an internet search (using Google or another search engine), you should be able to find some gambling recovery support groups.
Try these keywords: gamblers anonymous 12 step
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:44 PM
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How did you send your husband to the doctor? I am trying to send my son.
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Oct 31, 2005, 05:49 PM
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Oleg - I saw your message in the Meet the Moderators thread and just sent you a PM about it.
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#17
Oct 31, 2005, 06:28 PM
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The link I gave earlier to Gambler's Anonymous...
Gambler's Anonymous is a 12 step program. That website has local meetings and info. I still agree with everyone else... there unfortunately is not much to do until he realizes there is a problem and wants to seek help.
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#18
Nov 01, 2005, 10:46 AM
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I am afraid, he doesn't want to understand his problems. Now he is trying to escape to see me, talking only on the phome sometimes. I don't know, what to do. I ahve only one choise, change the adrress and the phone number. May be he will fill himself lonely and understand something
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