[Umbral_Seraph]

Why does my family think I'm utterly incompotent, that I shouldn't have any control over my life's decisions? Why does nobody understand that I have legitimate problems, a real condition that I'm trying to treat to live better? Why does no one care that I have my own opinions? Does everyone have interfere with every single aspect of my life because they "know better" than I do about everything and try to force their opinions on me? I'm so tired and frustrated with trying to explain why I try to do anything, it's like I'm talking to the wall.

[my3sns]

((((((hugs))))))

[madisgram]

sounds like they aren't validating you or your feelings, umbral. hope this excerpt reassures you that you're ok. they have the problem, not you.
The Need For Validation

To understand why people need to be validated requires us to look at how often our feelings get shared. As a society we have very few places where feelings are welcomed. We learn that strength means not crying, bravery means not feeling fear, and maturity means never being angry.Showing strong emotion tends to make the people around you very uncomfortable. Usually, they will attempt to get you to stop as quickly as possible. They may try to convince you that your feelings are inappropriate. Or they may try to reassure you. Even if their intent is to help you feel better, often the message is that it's not okay to feel bad.

Consequently, we have all accumulated many messages that our feelings are wrong. We yearn, therefore, for acceptance of our feelings, especially when our feelings are strong. Whatever else someone may be saying when they vent their feelings, they are probably also implicitly asking, "Are my feelings okay?" Validation answers this indirectly asked question, and provides satisfaction for a profound, though often unconscious, need.
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and from another site on how you can resolve this...
That is why it is important to evaluate one's work/or feelings from within.It is both mentally and emotionally better for an individual to do this rather than seek validation from others, who cannot provide a real sense of esteem to the individual. Secure persons are able to work from within, versus working from without. Likewise, those who constantly have persons running up to them seeking validation may shy away from such individuals. One's self worth in everything one does must come from the inside - that is the best booster for esteem, not a false sense of worth coming from another person in the form of an affirmative or negative remark.
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this is not always easy to do. however i've found it's not worth it to go to my family for example cause they don't validate my feelings. my friends do even if they don't agree with my logic. at least they acknowledge my feelings.

[OurLadysTears]

What exactly is your family doing or saying? Maybe they feel they are being helpful and don't understand. Have you confronted them with how you feel? Maybe they don't mean to force their opinions on you, but rather, feel that they are helping in some way by giving you their opinions. It is always good to look at the other side of the coin too. It sounds like they don't understand your condition and what you are going through. I can understand your frustration, because sometimes people are difficult to deal with and sometimes family members can be the worst. Try not to let this situation get you down. I'm sure your family loves you, but just doesn't understand you and your condition. Try to talk to them, hon. I would think that would be probably one of the best things you could do.

[Umbral_Seraph]

It's always been this way, but it gets more hurtful as I get older.
I'm in a difficult spot. for some reason love has always been equated with submissiveness, so not listening is disrespectful. They've told me that if I don't listen to them (not in regards to this specifically, just in general) I'll get kicked out and I have no where to go. I feel so stupid, that it's my fault I allowed all the measures to control me to implemented, and now I'm powerless.

[Willcat]

I have a problem with my family, I don't think they hear me. They are to busy telling me what I need to change, do, rearrange...they hear what they need to give me plenty of unsolicited advice, but I'm not being heard.

I guess its easier to try to fix me with all their wisdom and experience, without hearing me. Frustrating to not be heard.

Its not like I don't all ready know what to do, I do. I just want them to hear me and then be on my side as I venture into some greater wellness...as a friend and not a all knowing guru.

BTW guru's are a dime a dozen, friends are priceless.