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Aug 31, 2011, 11:15 PM
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In the space of 2 years my husband and I have 4 grandchildren. How delightful! Extended family members have added to the baby boom with more births and announcements. We ARE happy, but the constant round of showers, christenings, birthdays etc. is wearing thin. This is my 2nd marriage. I had one child when I was in my thirties in my first marriage because quite frankly, I was having a wonderful time in my career and traveling the world and wasn't remotely interested in motherhood until age 33. I'm/ we're happy and grateful for the healthy and happy babies but our enthusiam is waning. The family affairs with the screaming, crawling rug rats are something we find ourselves wanting to opt out of. It's just seems all too much. Anyone else honestly feel like distancing themselves from the fray?
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Sep 01, 2011, 04:51 AM
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welcome to pc.
 if it were me i'd send a gift, even take it before the event to the child's parents explaining you have a committment that prohibits your being able to attend their event. i understand about the rug rats too! this would be my solution. another way is to attend but using the need to leave early due to a previously made committment you must attend.
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Sep 01, 2011, 06:58 AM
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I would be honest and say that the noise and activity surrounding very small children is too wearing and opt out of the big activities, and if money for gifts is an issue, I'd be honest about that too. Later when the children are old enough you could take them individually out to lunch or some other quieter activity.
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Sep 01, 2011, 08:09 PM
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Quote:
 I only have two grandchildren but remember growing up; I have something like 24 great nieces and nephews and kind of resented Christmas, the only time each year I saw them and felt like I needed to bring them all presents (they're actually my stepsister's grandchildren, her youngest daughter, my goddaughter decided to have six children since my stepmother "had" five (including my three brothers and myself) and stepsister had 4 and her siblings had 3; she had to "beat" everyone in the mothering department).
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