[brokenandalone1234]

I am constatly paranoid all the time. I don't know why. I wonder if anyone else goes through this. If so how do you deal with it?

[Perna]

Hi, brokenandalone1234, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

I think looking at other people and thinking about what they are thinking and doing can sometimes be "easier" than looking at ourselves and figuring out what we want to do and how to do get there. If we have had problems in our past and/or are anxious about ourselves and our life, focusing outside ourselves can give us some relief?

Have you seen a counselor at all or do you talk back to your thoughts, notice how "simple" they are and make fun of them or "shrug" at what they have to say and ignore them, decide on something else to think about? That's what I do when I'm feeling too oppressed by what I think about others and their thoughts and actions. If "they" are talking about me, I say, "Let them talk!" I work on my self esteem and enjoying myself so other people's thoughts and opinions don't matter as much as my own, don't hold as much weight as mine.

[Callmebj]

You might try a little self-talk...like is what I'm thinking really make sense? I use to be a lot more paranoid than now...thought others were talking about me...but like Perna said,
you own evaluation of being a worthy self is much more important.

[pegasus]

Hi brokenandalone, paranoia often comes from anxiety or feeling fearful. Often if you remove the fear or learn to cope with the fear, you can then eliminate the paranoia. Therapy is good for this. Welcome to Psych Central and keep sharing with us.

[brokenandalone1234]

I am getting help for my issue with being paranoid all the time. It just doesn't seem to help. I can't even go outside my house at night because I am always looking over my shoulder. My fiance doesn't seem to understand. He says I am paranoid for no reason but I feel I am paranoid because of what could happen. Every time I go outside I am scared. I just don't understand it at all. I used to love the dark when I was a kid now that I am an adult I hate it. I have to sleep with a TV on at all times. I even sometimes have to sleep with a light on.

[sharpe2]

So, I'm not the only one that feels parnoid about what other people are thinking. I know that I have this problem, but it's hard to change these feeling have been hanging around for so long. What are the first steps to resolving this challenge?