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{{{{{{{{{Darrel}}}}}}}}}}}
Missing you and your posts.....hope everything is ok with you? How is your Gram feeling? ![]() Heather ![]() "Life is the art of drawing without an eraser." ~~author unknown
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Hugs Heather The secret of abundance is to stop focusing on what you do not have, and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all that you are and all that you do have. ~~Dr. Wayne Dyer |
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Hi Heather and everyone
![]() (((((( Hugs )))))) Sorry for not being more involved lately. Caught a cold earlier this week, but that's not really what's been on my mind. Part of it is school and work obligations too. Insomnia still wreaking havoc on my sleep schedule. Spend most of my time between work and school trying to catch up ![]() Barely have any time or energy left over for gram. She's been recieving in home therapy since coming back about 3 weeks ago, but that just ended this week. My mom visits briefly each morning and has been managing all gram's financial needs, but besides that, haven't heard a word from my sister or brother who live less than five minutes away. It's pissing me off how they can just ignore it all, I mean not even a frigging phone call. Guess they're just waiting til she's dead to drop by ![]() Someone needs to step in now where the therapists have left off and help gram with her speech and physical therapy. I'm going to do my best to find time, but already feel like I've got a full plate.... I can't watch what's happening with my family for too long without getting really disturbed about it. Lame is all I can think.... My mom was handicapped in a serious car accident when I was about 8 years old. She'd been drinking and was car racing when she lost control and flipped end over end 5 times. She broke her back and spent 8 months in suspended traction. I had to go live with my dad cause she obviously couldn't take care of me, but for some reason, my brother and sister were allowed to stay with friends.... Growing up, I was spared living with the depression in my mom's side of the family. Until I was an adult I never understood how debilitating mom's wreck had been on her and everyone else as a result. My brother became heavily addicted to drugs, while my sister withdrew and resented and still resents anything related to my mom. Now each just live completely seperated from it all as much as possible. When I moved here at 18 I felt sympathetic towards my mom and wanted to do everything I could to make her life easier. Maybe because what she'd seen happen to my sibs, she rejected all my attempts. At the time, I interpreted it as a rejection of me. I was already pretty demoralized and depressed from wicked step mom, so, this reaction from her only made everything worse. I felt totally disconnected from anyone. Still, I didn't understand her reasoning and felt a strong guilt that she needed help and I couldn't give it. Something I still feel even now. Now again, someone arounds me needs love and attention and for reasons of time and energy, I can't give it. Both my mom and gram are handicapped. My youngest sister has been thier crutch (for some reason they would accept help from her) but she's recently moved to the next town and isn't as available anymore. There isn't anyone else but me now. I really wish these two would get the help they need. Neither of them will go to a doctor or take personal responsibility for themselves. Instead they just hang on by any and all measures, suffering in front of me and I feel so helpless. I'm not a therapist, I'm not a doctor, I'm not a psychiatrist dammit ![]() Inside I want to be Mr. Fixit Man, but it's all too much. If everyone were complete unto themselves we wouldn't need carpenters or mechanics or doctors or lawyers. They just refuse to ask for help either because it costs too much or they "don't want to bother" anyone. So, we just sit and watch the house crumble, the car spill oil all over the driveway, the paint peeling off the house ![]() I can understand why my sibs stay away. I'm thinking of joining them ![]() Otherwise, school is great. Keeps my mind young, have a great, curious class to learn with. Work is fine, love my boss and even if the work is menial, it pays the bills and puts food on the table. I even enjoy it sometimes.... I have a small social life. I have a significant other that I love very deeply. I hope to have my own family someday ![]() I haven't been in a mindframe for posting a lot lately and I'm trying to understand why. I think I'm in an evaluative transition right now. Looking where I've been lately, keeping what I like, discarding the rest. Always trying to climb higher personally and as a good citizen. Making mistakes along the way, trying to catch my falls, and keep moving on. Not too different than many of you I'm sure.... Thanks for asking about me ![]() ![]() "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius |
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{Darrel}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
My goodness hun....I was exhausted just reading your post ![]() I am sorry about your Gram and your Mom...it is extremely frustrating isn't it? You want to take them (your brother and sister) by the shoulders and say "do something". I've been there....I understand. You won't stay away though because you care Darrel. You are doing well though focusing on school, work and your personal life - that is so admirable....your gf is a lucky girl. Thank you for posting and letting us know what has been happening with you. Never worry about not posting...gosh...your plate is more than full. Know that you are thought of and cared for. ![]() Heather ![]() "Life is the art of drawing without an eraser." ~~author unknown
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Hugs Heather The secret of abundance is to stop focusing on what you do not have, and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all that you are and all that you do have. ~~Dr. Wayne Dyer |
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Nowhere, I admire your strength of will to keep trudging forward. Heather is right - you have a lot on your plate right now and for quite awhile.
You are such a sensitive person. I am sorry about your mom - mine hurt herself a while ago and she has refused to go to the doctor or accept help from me - she crawls from one room to the other doing housework. So I can relate. Please find the time to take care of yourself. You certainly deserve it. Lots of warm wishes and hugs, Mary Alice ![]() |
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Thank you sweetie
![]() It means a lot to me to have your care and support. I've sort of trained myself to keep my own problems to myself because just about everyone I've ever known was overwhelmed and didn't know what to say or didn't want to get involved. Funny thing is, whenever they'd need anything, I was there heart and soul. It's so special to have others who actually give a damn. I don't know what to say but thank you and that seems totally inadequate. Wish we could all know each other in real life ![]() BTW, I think I'm the lucky bf ![]() "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius |
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((((((((((( Mary Alice )))))))))))))
Thanks for your wishes sweetie... I know your burdens are heavy too and still you can give others strength and kindness. Planning to Exist is a great idea ![]() ![]() "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius |
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:::::::::::standing ovation:::::::::::::::::::
good for you....if anyone can, it's you. P.S. If you have a hard time, remember where to check in. ![]() ![]() |
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Anytime Darrel
![]() Your problems are never a burden for us ok? We are all here for you. I understand about keeping your problems in though....just remember they don't feel as heavy when you share them with someone ok? I would love to know everyone here in real life.....wouldn't that be something? I keep trying to talk Tomi into visiting Nova Scotia too but no luck so far ![]() ok...you got my interest piqued...who is the lucky girl? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Heather ![]() "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on." ~~Robert Frost
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Hugs Heather The secret of abundance is to stop focusing on what you do not have, and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all that you are and all that you do have. ~~Dr. Wayne Dyer |
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Sorry sweetie, can't be answering this question now... How 'bout those Denver Bronco's? (choke, gag, puke)
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius |
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Darn...and here I thought I was going to get all kinds of juicy gossip too
![]() ![]() Now then...the Broncos? ahhhh just not the same since Elway is gone ![]() ![]() Heather ![]() "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on." ~~Robert Frost
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Hugs Heather The secret of abundance is to stop focusing on what you do not have, and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all that you are and all that you do have. ~~Dr. Wayne Dyer |
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