Sometimes I don't feel normal. I wish I was. maybe I am a mistake. I wish I was made better.

[venusss]

I wish I was normal...

well, I don't. Besides "normal" being a vague concept... and normal being quite unhealthy (see my signature)... I if was "normal" I would not be me.

You are not made better or worse. You become the person you are. You work on yourself to be that person.

if you want to be "normal", whatever it means, you use your tools to be it. I use my tools to be Venus, the quirky female Franza Kafka with edge.

and as for feeling... believe me, there many who don't feel they way they thing they ought to feel. But who are we supposed to feel anyways?

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

well, I don't. Besides "normal" being a vague concept... and normal being quite unhealthy (see my signature)... I if was "normal" I would not be me.

You are not made better or worse. You become the person you are. You work on yourself to be that person.

if you want to be "normal", whatever it means, you use your tools to be it. I use my tools to be Venus, the quirky female Franza Kafka with edge.

and as for feeling... believe me, there many who don't feel they way they thing they ought to feel. But who are we supposed to feel anyways?

I suppose you're right.

[Sanada]

I never believed that normal (in personality and physical) terms has ever existed. I am still yet to witness a 'normal' person. I thought for a very very long time that I was normal and all around me. Funny, I was in for a shock.

If somebody in my life comes to me and says 'hey I'm normal', I am suspicious straight away.

To recognise flaws or inner problems that make us feel different to the rest around us is a good sign. If you have the will to improve you're life, recognition of self is the place to start.

Metamorphosis.

[SophiaG]

Feeling distress over your mental illness is fine, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be at peace.

You aren't a mistake though.

[turquoisesea]

I don't believe in normal either. I've learned to be ok with most of my oddness. It make me who I am, it makes me special. Would I like to get rid of all the mental health illness stuff I've had to deal with? of course. But I've also learned a lot from it and am trying to take it in a positive light.

[lynn P.]

I agree with all the great comments you've had so far...especially VenusHalley's post. I think this is the depression talking and some low self esteem as well. The idea of what's normal is subjective - one persons normal might be anothers abnormal. We can always find some example of a supposedly better person but do we really know them deep inside. There also might be apparently normal seeming people but in their mind, they feel inadequate.

Work with what you have, accent the best parts of you and accept you're a unique individual. Even your flaws are part of you and that's okay. Depression makes us focus on the negative.

You aren't a mistake.You are a human facing the emotional trials of existence.

[darkpurplesecrets]

I am not sure what normal is but to me being normal is the ability to look at where you are and be honest with yourself of the changes you see you want or need to make and being able to admit when things are not right. Many times those that tell me they are normal have no problems according to them, which to me is so not normal.

We each struggle each day to change things and to look for ways to accomplish what we are trying to do. Some of the people that tell me they are normal and it is me that has problems I feel sorry for them that they are in denial of their own truth. Whether it is by choice or a learned way to be, those who can look at life and know they are not what they want to be or where they want to be are one step in front.

I do validate how you feel for I feel like a mistake so often too. But truth is we are not mistakes we are here because we are supposed to be and within each of us we have something to offer the world, we just may not know what that is yet. But as we keep looking and opening ourselves up one day we will know.

We never know what someone is dealing with or facing in their life. Maybe they have learned to hide it so well that it seems everything is okay. But we do not know how they deal behind closed doors or in private. I know that for a long time I hid behind a wall that no one could see behind, not even myself.

I am sure you have heard the saying that "Normal is just a setting on a dryer." I think being yourself and figuring out what and who you want to be is all of being normal. Who defines normal? I think each of us do and unless we give others power to determine that for us, we can be whatever it is we want to be if we keep searching and allowing change to come.

Thank you for posting. Just be yourself, for that is enough. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Sometimes I don't feel normal. I wish I was. maybe I am a mistake. I wish I was made better.

You are a creative person and I like you the way you are. You're not a mistake and you've been made with good stuff.

[Caretaker Leo]

Leaving a store today, I looked around at all the other people and for some reason felt as though I was an outsider. That they were all normal and I wasn't. Not convinced that I am a mistake - but can relate to not feeling normal.

And yet, I have to wonder what "normal" really is.

[Open Eyes]

Well Caretaker Leo,

That word normal is basically a base. And what that base is used for is to address things that people do or express or behave that are not considered normal behaviors.
And the is a lot of room to Normal.

When something sad happens it is normal to be upset and even cry.
And when some children act up they can be expressing normal behaviors for their age or sex.
And even your question is actually pretty normal because everyone looks around at others and they do wonder if they are normal or if the other people are normal.
So there a lot of different things that we all ask and do and feel that can be considered a normal human response or concern.

What is not normal is some who cannot cry or cannot get angry or cannot seem to understand love or cannot learn certain things that most humans have no difficulty with.

But normal can also be used for a disorder. For example, in PTSD, it is normal in that disorder to isolate and feel guilty and be very hypervigilant and get very anxious in certain situations and even cry a lot and get frustrated and even feel depressed. So normal can be used to describe symptoms that normally come with a disorder.

Now we all know human beings are all unique and there is no perfect human being.
But human beings share normal reactions and behaviors to different things. And if a human being cannot not show correct common reactions than that is considered not normal. And that is something that can be caused genetically or from upbringing and some kind of abuse or neglect or even a disorder of some kind.

So when you go shopping, most normal people can go shopping, but some people can't even leave their house, so thats not normal.

So normal is just a base of basic common human behaviors. But it doesn't mean perfect. And not being perfect, is normal because no one is.

And it is even normal to feel sometimes like we are outsiders.

Open Eyes

You are in my thoughts, Jenny.

[elliemay]

Whenever I hear anyone talk about normal, I always think of that "normal" distribution of things in a population.

http://www.regentsprep.org/Regents/m...rmalLesson.htm

Yeah, the majority of things are close to the mean, but everything (and everyone) is part of the population. The existence of a "true true" outlier is exceedingly, stupefyingly rare. Even then, given time and multiple sampling that outlier will like regress toward the mean.

Yeah, I was told there would be no math....

BUT, "normal" behavior encompasses so so so many different things and actually describes the entire population and not just those who are close to the mean.

You may feel different, but I can say with a certain amount of mathematical certainty that you are right here with the rest of us. Slogging through.

[sewerrats]

Thats what i call people that are not mentally ill, the normal.s. I dont think there lives are much better than your,s, to be brutal, with meds we can sail along in our own world , they battle through life.