[madisgram]

i've had a plethora of black and white thinking. needless to say this article caught my eye. there are suggestions of how to change this behavior as well as how this duality occurs. perhaps this article may help others here at pc too.

Throughout our lives, we often inspire undue stress and anxiety by viewing our existence with a "dualistic mind." We create a world of private duality, a world that is limited to fixed or black and white thinking. We do this because it gives us a (false) sense of security and control over life's uncertainties. The dualistic mind tricks us into thinking we have this "life" thing figured out, and we don't have to struggle and search anymore. And that feels good -- but only temporarily.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/john-t...l-intelligence

[Ygrec23]

I don't know, madisgram. I've been addicted to "gray" thinking all my life, that is, no terribly stark distinctions and much appreciation of the infinite number of shadings applicable to all human thinking and experience except perhaps mathematics.

And "gray" thinking (I think) is just as problematic as black and white thinking. It makes it MUCH harder to arrive at conclusions and make final judgments. There's ALWAYS something to say for the other side (or sides). "Gray" thinking can well paralyze a person, as I know from bitter experience. If you think in black and white, you make your conclusion (zap!) and move on to the next problem.

At least, that's the way it looks from the "gray" side of the line!

[gma45]

Thank you for posting this madisgram. It made sense to me. The way my mind sees it..I must be like a mirror and let their reflection go back on them not my reaction. My my! I have lived with black and white for so long! Am I getting it?