Should I just leave this place?

I feel like one or two members don't like me. I sent a message but I got no response. I don't like it when people don't reply back. But they can easily respond to other people. I feel left out. I hate feeling like this. Everyone else has their friends and I feel alone. I might as well stop going to this site because people won't miss me and they are better off without me.

I might get away from psych central for a while. I shouldn't be here.

(((happycheeks))) - if a member needs to take a break from here for positive reasons, that's okay but don't feel pushed away. I'm older than you and I've learned we won't be liked by everyone...its that way for everyone...even the best person. This has happened to me when I don't get a reply back - yes I know it can be hard not to take it personal. We also need to realize there are many here struggling and maybe they don't feel up to responding. I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

Hey HappyCheeks,

Some people may be dealing with their own things and may not be able to reply to your pm/visitor message when they log on. It's nothing to do with who you are.

How you been doing anyways?

I have a few "friends" on here who I will talk to now and again but I class you all in the same boat..... please try and not get hurt if people do not respond to you asap. We are all fighting our own fights and sometimes time out is a good thing

Hi happycheeks,

There could be many reasons why someone didn't reply to your message. I know that for me, personally, if I'm going through a rough time I will not reply to messages. Not because I don't like the person, but because I need to focus on myself for a while.

In my short life, I have learned and accepted that not everyone in this world will like you. It's an impossible goal that wastes too much time and energy - I have seen a couple of people in my life try to be liked by everyone...it never happens! What matters most is, that you like yourself first. I have found that I am more drawn to those with self-confidence.

I have seen your posts on this site, and all the replies you receive. You are getting a lot of support here, from people who DO care about you. So there are plenty of people on this site that like you.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

(((happycheeks)))

Gentle hugs sent your way.

I can understand where you're coming from. I've felt the same a couple of times. Those are times when I've become just a little too needy. In retrospect, I can see that they were times which I wasn't getting the support I needed anywhere else in life. I was depending upon major emotional support from PC.

Personally, I cannot expect most everyone to respond to me as quickly as I might like. There is one friend here who has always been here for me. I try hard to always express my thankfulness and be there for her the way that's she's been here for me.

I hope that you feel better very soon.

Happycheeks, I hope you don't leave but that is your choice! I sure enjoy your posts and pictures they really brighten my day! You are so thoughtful and caring with everyone I just wish you felt the same way about yourself! Take care of YOU!

I'm alright I guess.

happycheeks as it has already been said here people might be busy doing other things to reply to your messages, It has happened to me too at times, I hope that you decide to stay, You are liked here

Happy cheeks, I can't speak for other members, but i cannot view ANY of my VM's, as I use my cellphone... So sorry felt rejected.

Thanks everyone for replying. I'm sorry if I'm annoying. I won't leave this place because I like being here and being with you lot and my friends who are caring and wonderful to me. I know people won't respond quickly or something but they can respond to everyone else. I just try to focus on the people who are there for me and want me in their life. I like playing in games and reading posts. Sorry for being negative.

((((happycheeks))))

It is something that I have learnt in life that not everyone will get on everyone I know that it sucks and hurts but it is just the way it is, I am sorry though that you're hurt by this.

I am glad that you're staying You're not being negative you're saying how you feel and that is fine

you're right Just have to be with the ones who like me.

I post mostly from my phone, so don't always get to my VM's quickly. Just wanted you to know that

Glad your staying HappyCheeks

Ohh I didn't know. It's not your fault. It's mine.

I am happy too

Hoorah for Happycheeks!
I greatly appreciate your kind and polite presence here.

Thank you I am loved here.

Happycheeks theres lots of reasons why a member doesnt answer you, like me when I get real busy sometimes I dont check my messages for a few days. other times I set the messages so that I dont recieve any messages at all except for the moderators (which of course we members cant shut off. plus sometimes I have to put some members on ignore. when someone shuts off their messages the way I do or place someone on ignore people can send all the messages they want and I wont see them at all. Sometimes I dont even log in. people can read these boards without being logged in. when you arent logged in you cant see whether you have messages. Sometime I will come in and see I have lots of messages and I dont have the time to read and answer them right away......Sometimes I dont bother replying to some messages because to me the messages seem to just be a situaiton where the member needed to let off steam about something or during writing to me they have figured out the solution anyway so there is no need for an answer back.. or I just need time to think on what was written to me....gosh theres all kinds of reasons why someone isnt answering their messages.

please try to not take it personally when someone doesnt message you back. it doesnt always mean someone doesnt like you. they are just using good self care about what they can and cant deal with at that moment.

I am committing myself to be a friend to happycheeks.

Your new friend says;

Awww wow means so to much

Don't go. I WOULD MISS YOU!
I've had this problem before when i first started here, and occationally with someone who comes along during my time here. I go through phases where i come here, and then where i'm elsewhere.
Do what's best for YOU! but I do want you to know that you would be missed if you weren't here. (if someone is causing a large problem with you, (or more than one someones) I would suggest either talking to an mod about it, or if they still have that blocking feature, add the username to that block list on here (i have taken both routes, but sometimes people just wont back down from making sure you hear them loud and clear and seem that they only feel better about themselves when they do that, so they just keep it up). In the real world, you can't actually block someone, but it works on the internet pretty well. In the real world you might have to find a diffrent kind of solution.
*hugs* you're worth it, to be here. No one will make you feel otherwise if you believe that, and not associate with those who try to make you believe otherwise. You have the right to be here, no matter what anyone tries to say to you.
I've learned there's always at least one person who doesn't feel or believe the same as me, but how much I let them have a say on what i do and feel, and believe is all up to me. They can't cut through my shell if I don't let them. (but i've also learned it's not wise to be completely blind to others too. Because sometimes they can be trying to help you and give you advice on how they see it, and when i have compeltely shut everyone out, that didn't go out very well either because i lost touch of reality, and was just closed minded to everything that went against me.) I hope that makes sense, I feel like i'm not making sense and am even confusing myself now. lol

Sometimes when I receive a private message I won't respond to it immediately - whether I don't feel like talking at the moment or whatever the reason, I'll come back to it later that day or the next when I'm feeling more social Don't take it personally - there are many reasons why someone might not reply back right away.

I hope I am not one of the people who have hurt your feelings. I only get to come here on my work PC and almost all my VMs show up as a red x. If it's text I can read it but any type of link or pic and I can't. I actually never gave it too much thought but I have been remiss in responding to my VMs and shall remedy that tonight