[Dizzy man]

For some reason, bad things only happen when things are starting to look better. I just found out my uncle, who is pretty close to me, has brain cancer. What are some good ways to deal with this? And what are some good ways to make him feel better? I'm worried that when I go to his house I won't know what to say, or I might sound rude about it.

while brain cancer is quite serious - it is also treatable and curable. i know of someone who beat it. i had a relative who had cancer and what she appreciated most was when i would visit and stay and talk or stay and watch TV with her. i also did her grocery shopping. despite the disease, they are the same person, so try to treat them the same as usual. what will differ is that now you will be helping them. set up a consistent pattern, e.g., visit one time a week and call one time a week. do not be afraid to ask how they are feeling and what they are going through. they need to talk. you can do it! there are also some books that give advice on this subject. however, since all people are different, it just might be best to call and ask how they are and if you can help and, if so, how.

[Callmebj]

Be yourself and this is just as important as it was before you knew he was sick
I worked Hospice and you can't change what is going on with him...but you can be there for him during trying times. It's not at all necessary to fake a bunch of stuff when you around people you care for. He will be happy you care enough to check on him and visit.
hugs, bj

[Rosie23]

Just be yourself. Talk about the same stuff you always did. If you are close to your uncle and feel O.K. about it, ask him about treatments and how they are making him feel. Is there anything you can do to help out?

But don't hide from it.

Oh. And don't forget to ask your Aunt or any family member who is the primary care giver if they need anything. That person spends a great deal of time being there for your uncle. It is a hard job. Make sure they get a break to go shopping or out to lunch. It is important that their life continues to include non-cancer related events.