[desirae]

I'm mad at my sister. I've done so much for her since she's had her baby. I have not gotten one single thank you. I asked her to come to my house the other day so we could get pictures of all the babies together, and she said she's not ready to take the baby out.....which I understand.....but then I call there today and mama tells me that she left, with the baby, and went to stay the night at a friends......who are junkies no less.

That really makes me mad.

Yesterday when I was over there she cussed at me in front of my kids because I said the baby looked hungry......she told me to shut the F up, she knows how to take care of her own kid.

Her anger really hurts me. I did soooooo much for her, I got in major trouble with my husband, and I ran the heck out of my car to take her and the baby back and forth from the hospital and doctor appointments.....I did not get one single thank you. Nothing, not even a little respect.

I'm about to say screw it, she can figure her own %#@&#! out because I am tired of fighting a war that she's not willing to fight along with me. It's like I'm doing all the work for her......I have my own life, kids, school, and crap.

If she thinks she's such a big girl.....then she can be on her own....I give up.

[dottie]

You are in motion..evolving. Your sister is "stuck"in neutral....IMO.

Tending to your own immediate family would seem to "be the ticket" here!!

Your sister may also be going through post partum stuff. Her body is trying to get back on track of hormones and so on to where it was before being pregnant. When I went through it I snapped at people, in and out of depression, didn't know from one minute to the next what I wanted to do so I either just agreed with everyone or shoot their ideas down flat. Give your sister some time its not you and post partum stuff has no time limit some people are back on track in a month others it takes sometimes years. Since there is no telling how long your sister is going to react this way the best thing you can do is take care of yourself and try not to take anything personally. Hard to do I know. good luck.

[(JD)]

((((des))) I'm sorry you're experiencing this. If you can continue, without expecting any thanks, then do so... but take care of yourself first. I agree that she might be going through ppd. If you can suggest to her to get some help (MD or whomever) that she needs a break or ??? do so....

But again, take a break; it sounds like you need one to for all you've been doing for her and the family. ((((hugs))))

And to answer your subject line question: I hope not. Anger only eats ourselves up inside, does nothing good for a situation. We here at PC appreciate you, who you are, and what you have been trying to do for your sister.

[Lexicon78]

(((((desirae)))))

I'm sorry you're getting used so badly. I think you need to tell her next time she wants something done that you cannot do it. Then you can let her know what it's really like to be an "adult."

I think it's awful that she's taking her baby around a bunch of junkies. It almost sounds like she's not thinking of the baby, but of herself and I don't think that's right at all.

Do what is right for you, not everyone else. You need to put you and your family first now. That's all you can do.

Try to hang in there.

[PetulantWolf]

Is your sister on drugs? I cant imagine hanging out with junkies and not doing drugs. If so, then, well, that explains it... Des, I know youre one of the nicest people we'll ever meet. Take care of yourself, first...you and your kid come first...My experience has been that no matter what you do for some people they just keep asking for more, and they think you you owe it to them for some reason..I never met your sister, I hope shes not like that, but Ive tried to help lots of people and my experience has been that they have to help themselves as well. It sounds like she's not doing that.you are breaking your *** to help yourself, going to school being a good mother, doing your best. I give you a lot of credit.Who is helping you? You can help her but you cant do everything for her. She has to want to help herself. I know its hard with a baby involved.Maybe if you back off a little bit she'll appreciate you more. And I do think you should be appreciated! YOU ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!