My daughter

Today i had a real eye opener...i took my beautiful daughter to the dr..she is all of 12 yrs old...they say she is having panic attacks and suffering from my divorce..She has an overwhelming fear of herself or one of her parents dying...she gets a scrape..she asks and begs for reassurance that she is gonna be ok and nothing is gonna happen to her...she is aware of my recent mental illness..i feel to blame..i have truly done the best i can to raise her...she doesnt just have a mom with mental illness but a dad also..my x husband being the one on the suicidal end of this illness...i made my first step to help her by taking her to the doctor..god, i dont want her to live with panic...i so want to take all her pain and fears away..i have made mistakes..i just dont want her to suffer for the illness her parents carry..i dont want her to be like either one of us..i want her to be happy,healthy and think of only things a 12 yr old should think of..what to wear to school,how she wants to have her hair done...what she and her friends will do on the weekend...what happened to the little white house and picket fence? isnt that what little girls hope for? any advice

I'm sorry. I don't know what to tell you. I want to tell you to really think about it if the pdoc suggests meds, not because they won't help, but I think we need to be more careful about putting kids on meds. For some people, they change their lives for the better, and I think people should be happy. I wish you the best.

I am really sorry for what you and your daughter have gone through. My 8 year old son has suffered at the hands of my mental illness and I will be starting play therapy with him soon to help with anger and other emotional issues. He was a a little baby when I got divorced and does not know his biological whatever. My husband is the only father he has ever known, so in that sense it is so much easier for me than for you.

You love your daughter dearly. Continue to shower her with this love as you no doubt will do. Besides getting her the medical assistance that you are, reassuring her of your love will mean everything to her. Lots and lots of physical hugs, even lying in bed with her at night.

I am sure that she is a very strong and special little girl and with a loving Mom like you will be ok.

Don't forget to give yourself some TLC too!

thank you both for your reply...i guess i was so wrapped up in my daughter i failed to say i have a 20 yr old son...whom my x adopted 14 yrs ago...alot of issues between my x and my son...she too tries to fix things with them...i didnt add on my post that the doc yesterday thought alot of it was coming from my x involving her in adult issues ,such as finances cuz of his support and his threats of suicide and his alcholism..i didnt add any of that cuz i dont wanna seem like i am blaming him for everything...i try the best i can to listen to her stories of him and the problems..with time limits now...i try very hard to not involve her in any of my problems...but when i was sick..she saw...i guess i just wanna say thanks you for your replies...i am aware now and and will care for her with the help of the doctor and do the best i can to help her beat this with nothing but love and understanding...thanks again sherry

Sherry - I am sending my gentlest, kindest and most supportive thoughts to both you and your daughter.

You are a very good Mom!

Sherry, I just want too say kudos too you for being there for her while she is still young. So many times parents will tell their kids, everything will be alright, leaving everything to be dealt with later in life. The fact she is dealing with these types of issues now can only help her in the long run. You are doing a great job! Trust me!
HUGS
Cher