[heatherm]

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I got a phone call just a little while ago from my former mother in law (her son is my ex husband). It is my son's Christmas concert Thursday evening and she wants me to take her. I will be busy enough that day and evening (getting Timmy ready etc) that I don't know how to say no to her.

I have stayed in touch with her as I divorced her son not her and she is my son's only grandparent. I just feel awkward and don't know how to say no. She is 85 years old and will need help getting in and out of the building, etc. I will also have my other son (2 yr old) as well. I feel so guilty and know I shouldn't but would I be a meanie saying I can't do it? Do you have any advice for me? Maybe I should take her?...oh I don't know ....


Heather

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on."
~~Robert Frost

[Willow]

I hope I'm not too off base here.... but I'd say take her. She's 85 and it would be more of a blessing to her than an inconvenience to you. Of course... I am speaking from an "if it were me" perspective. I have no idea what hurdles you are crossing.

[heatherm]

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Thank you hun....after I did some thinking I realized that you are right....she is 85 and I am lucky too....we do still have a good relationship. Mind you her son (Timmy's Dad) is going to be there with his girlfriend and is not taking his own Mother though....I think that was my main pet peeve. Each year I take her (we have been divorced for over 4 years) and he goes to the concert too. Oh well.... ....just one of those reasons why we aren't together...he is so thoughtful eh? heehee

Thank you again.


Heather

[heatherm]

Hi everyone,

Just an update on the concert of my sons.....my former Mother in law was unable to go at the last minute . She hurt her hip and will have to have surgery. When she called me to tell me she could not go...we both cried as she sooo wanted to go. I was able to get it videotaped and will share it with her though.
The concert was amazing....Timmy sang a solo and blew everyone away with his voice. I was just a tad bit proud .

Again, thank you all for your advice here.....I felt better knowing that I was going to take her and felt so bad that she was unable to go.

Something else took place as well. I made a phone call to my oldest sister (we haven't really spoken since Mom died) and asked her to come. She did and we had a really nice time. Timmy was so excited seeing his Aunt there too.

It really gave a nice and true meaning to Christmas.


Heather

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