[No Fuse No Flame]

I have little tolerance for trivial conversation. Don't like to hear about BS in other peoples life. Does anyone else have this problem.

[Leed]

Yeah, I too get tired of hearing about someone's dog and the "cute" things he does, or what someone's garden looks like. Who cares! lol

Ohhh well. I guess I should be grateful that they think enough of me to call me at all.

But I sure know what you mean. Take care. Hugs, Lee

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I feel the same here. My fiance says I hate the world but I honestly don't. I love every creature, but do I care to hear about their completely dull lives and the details? The superficial nonsense that flows out of their mouths non stop? No, it irkes me. But I listen with a smile on my face, I've learned early on in life to fake it the best I can but boy can it drive me up the wall. Listening to someone go on for hours about nothing is turly irritating. But I guess it comes from the fact that I know there is more to life than tv shows, clothing, hair etc

I find discussion on popular culture and so forth pointless. Actually, I don't get it. I never discuss topics like this, but I will listen or pretend to (for family and a few friends).

Yes. I would expand on that, but...

[seeker1950]

I have one coworker, unfortunately next door to me at school, who is the Queen of trivial conversation...and specifically ALL about herself, her family, her what's for dinner, blah, blah, blah. As soon as I try to interject anything into the conversation, she waits impatiently till she can return to her subject...Herself! I have a few other acquaintances like this...do not consider them friends. Such people are incapable of being friends to anyone.
I like a conversation in which there is genuine interest and give and take. Not too hard to find, really.

[lizardlady]

I agree that non-stop trival conversation gets boring, BUT... some small talk is how people connect with each other. Sharing small details about oneself or one's life is how we get to know one another.

[wing]

It's hard for me to chit-chat, but if I want friends I have to do some of it. I think people want to lay a little groundwork, and test out whether you care about them or not, by talking about trivial things. Once past that, a trust develops that can blossom into a friendship within which you can share more intimate things.

There are people who care only to run their mouths off about themselves. They find each other, though, and I guess their way of defining friendship is different.

I have to work at small talk because I can be a little intense and "nosy" just because I want to get right down to it and find out what a person is all about. Most people aren't comfortable with that unless you're in group therapy, so learning to chit-chat is important as a base to build upon.

[doglover5]

Yep, let me go on ahead & join this club. I hate listening to other people talk about meaningless crap. But like most, I put on the face & pretend as well.
Other people my age enjoy what they call "going out," where they go to a bar & drink over priced alcohol while they sit around a table & force themselves to speak a bunch of meaningless words to each other all night til they're tipsy enough to start flirting with each other.

This baffles me to no end; I do not understand how or why people enjoy doing things like this?

[No Fuse No Flame]

Originally Posted by doglover5

Yep, let me go on ahead & join this club. I hate listening to other people talk about meaningless crap. But like most, I put on the face & pretend as well.
Other people my age enjoy what they call "going out," where they go to a bar & drink over priced alcohol while they sit around a table & force themselves to speak a bunch of meaningless words to each other all night til they're tipsy enough to start flirting with each other.

This baffles me to no end; I do not understand how or why people enjoy doing things like this?

Thats one reason I don't go to bars anymore. I hate listening to drunken psycho babble. People say things they don't mean nor remember.