will be turned off for a few days, beginning tonight. if you would like my e.mail address, please PM me and i'll give it to you. xoxoxo pat

[cherybery]

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I read some of your other threads you wrote in the last 24 hours. I just want too say no ones problems are greater then others, the biggest thing is they are our own, no matter what we are all going through. Hon you just need to do what is best for YOU. I know I have run across things in my life which out of nowhere trigger something from my past and it floors me. The people closest in my life just do not understand how something, that to them seems like no big deal, is a huge mountain for me. Just know I am thinking of you and please just take care of yourself.
BIG HUGS
Cher

[wisewoman]

Pat, give me your email please, thanks.

[nothemama8]

Hey Ethel breathe dammit breathe

[gardenergirl]

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I read some of your other threads you wrote in the last 24 hours. I just want too say no ones problems are greater then others, the biggest thing is they are our own, no matter what we are all going through.

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Thank you for writing this. It's so true. And to add to it, no one's reactions or feelings are more authentic than anyone else's.

On a related note, in therapy, if the T were to respond to a client's expression of feelings with a statement that minimizes the feeling or tries to "correct" the feeling, it would be considered an empathic failure and would be invalidating.

Pat, I have your email address unless you changed it. Take care,

gg

[Fuzzybear]

I understand.

Love you!

On a related note, in therapy, if the T were to respond to a client's expression of feelings with a statement that minimizes the feeling or tries to "correct" the feeling, it would be considered an empathic failure and would be invalidating.

boy, gg, you got it going on tonight, girl!!!

it works that way among friends also. and you don't even have to make an appointment with them to get those statements. invalidating the way i feel is a ----poor way to make a connection with me. it only causes me to retreat, as i would from a T, and it causes me to be a bit more careful with my friendship.

just because i feel one way and you feel another, that doesn't make me wrong. and it doesn't make you wrong. but....... it is definitely starting to feel like being nibbled to death by ducks.

thanks to one and all. i'm amazed at how many have spoken out about THEIR feelings the past few days. i've had some incredulous PMs. (you know who you are.)

xoxoxo ethel/pat/fayerody/pattyfairlynormal

[gardenergirl]

Thanks fuzzy.

gg

[gardenergirl]

Take care, Ethel. I'll say hi to the unc' for you.

Love,
Edna

please tell John about my moving to be a real Texan!!! and gently nudge him about my walking stick. emphasize how much hiking i'll be doing and how i'll need protection from those big Texas snakes...

chery........thanks for your insight......xoxox pat

when my old computer died and fried, your e.mail address went away. please e.mail me, so i can put you back in my contacts. thanks, ethel

[gardenergirl]

On it's way. And I'll remind UJ about the walking stick.

gg