protecting boundaries vs isolation

I've always felt like people were overstepping my boundaries. I'm just getting enough courage to say something when it bothers me. But I have mixed feelings of guilt that maybe I'm making impulse or poor judgments that isolate myself from the rest of the world - just to protect my boundaries. Protecting my boundaries gives me time to process my feelings and thoughts in my head, but should I be anti-social to do it?

I think u need to think about yourself 1st. Although, do u care if u are antisocial?

It's a mixed bag. I want to be able to have my thinking time, but I worry about what others will think of me. I don't mind being away from the social scene other than what people will think about me.

i don't think u should worry about wen u need alone time ... real friends will understand. also, i'd rather appear antisocial and isolate than be walked all over.

take care

I think it's going to make big a difference whether you present it as taking some time off to take care of yourself (and never mind why), or as getting back at someone else for what they said or did to you. The first sounds more like, "I'm sorry, this isn't a good time to have this conversation." The second sounds more like, "Goodbye, jerk! Don't call me, I'll call you! *slam*"

It sounds like you're asking about the distinction between passive, aggressive, and assertive communication. If so, here are a couple of articles you might be interested in:

Setting boundaries Appropriately: Assertiveness Training

Assertive Communication

I had or ave the same problem, however, I am working on it.
Now I know that if people ask a question about me they are not necessarily trying do discover something negative about me. And not every comment is a criticism, people often are just expressing a preference.