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Old Dec 27, 2012, 12:30 PM
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Sometimes when I am alone with my thoughts I experience a peculiar and uncomfortable feeling. It's as though I feel like there should be something more. It's an empty, bored feeling. I would describe it as a hole deep within my chest. It's not a great discomfort, more of a slight annoyance, but it is persistent. Usually it comes with a feeling of depression. It's kind of like my inner self is saying "What's the point?"...

Is it possible that someone else here has experienced this feeling? It could be a symptom of one of my mental disorders, or just a part of normal, everyday depression. I'm just not sure, though.

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Old Dec 27, 2012, 01:00 PM
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I know the feeling.
Loneliness is an aching void in the center of our beings, a deep longing to love and be loved, to be fully known and accepted by at least one other person. It is a hollow, haunting sound sweeping through our depths, chilling our bones and causing us to shiver.

Is there a person, anywhere, who has never felt the stab of loneliness, who has never experienced the eerie distance of isolation and separation who has never suffered the pain of rejection or the loss of love?

The final rupture or breakdown of a valued loving relationship, the sudden death of someone who was close and special, an unavoidable separation from a loved one—these things strike loneliness into our hearts, the intense experience of the absence of that specific person.

Besides longing for a specific person, sometimes loneliness has no name attached. This is the general feeling of being alone, isolated, separated from others.

And there is a third kind of loneliness—existential loneliness—which is even deeper and more pervasive than either of the first two. It often disguises itself as longing for a specific person or pretends to be yearning for contact with anyone, but this deeper lack or emptiness-of-being is not really a kind of loneliness at all.

Being together with other people, even people we intensely love, does not overcome this deep incompleteness of being. This inner default of selfhood has never been solved by relationships, no matter how good and close and warm our relationships might be. http://www.tc.umn.edu/~parkx032/CY-LONE.html
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Old Dec 27, 2012, 01:34 PM
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Sometimes when I am alone with my thoughts I experience a peculiar and uncomfortable feeling. It's as though I feel like there should be something more. It's an empty, bored feeling. I would describe it as a hole deep within my chest. It's not a great discomfort, more of a slight annoyance, but it is persistent. Usually it comes with a feeling of depression. It's kind of like my inner self is saying "What's the point?"...

Is it possible that someone else here has experienced this feeling? It could be a symptom of one of my mental disorders, or just a part of normal, everyday depression. I'm just not sure, though.

Any thoughts?
Benignity,
My thoughts would be, a. it is good to spend some time alone with your thoughts. b. You are thinking there should be more describing it as empty. A deep Hole. Not a great discomfort/slight annoyance.
Persistance without finding the answers you are seeking brings feelings of disappointment, doubt, and unfulfillment. Not necsessarily depression.
You can take this as part of normal. What you do about it/or what works for me is taking that place of emptyness as fertile soil and plant seeds that produce productive feelings! Like I am taking time to reflect, alot of people dont.
That uncomfortable feeling comes when change is about to happen. Asking 'whats the point" can be fear talking. Fear is a liar. or You can embrace this question with a more positive optimistic approach on behalf of your futue. In the meantime bring laughter in your life.
Only you have the answers to whats the point. Patience
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Old Dec 29, 2012, 09:05 PM
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I feel like that all the time. It creeps up the most when I'm bored which leads me to over-eating. It's a void I'm trying to fill. I don't know what's missing in your life: friendship, spirituality, family, a significant other? Loneliness is something I've been struggling with my whole life. I'm always thinking though. It feels like the only thing I have.
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Old Dec 29, 2012, 10:57 PM
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awh shucks i hate the lonely feeling /:
usually when i get it i put music on or take some nice hike - working out helps me .
get my mind off of deep thoughts
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Old Dec 29, 2012, 10:58 PM
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I've felt two similar but also different feelings before.

The first feeling is that my heart is dying or dead and cold. Like it's been replaced with an old mechanical pump that is failing. A hole in my chest. A lack of mortal drive. My thoughts are still there but the emotion is gone. I am now a machine. A ghost in the shell.

The second feeling is that my mind is dying or dead and cold. Like it too has been replaced with an old computer with the blue screen of death. My body is still there. Very little thought is there but there are thoughts but they seem to feel like a vacuum is sucking them away from me.

I realized that both feelings are different but are forms of an energy disruption in the body. Basically the body was lacking organic energy. FUEL. FIRE. FOOD. If you have some money and you enjoy beef, I suggest you treat yourself and buy grass-fed organic ground beef. Or really anything organic. You body needs energy. The feeling you are getting is your gas tank is empty. Change up the diet a bit. You need to try different things.
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