[Jellyfish5]

my brother is divorced and recently in new romance. he just found out hid ex wife decided to punish their 9 yr old daughter by making her stand outside naked. i am shocked and scared for my niece. my brother , ex wife and girls are in counseling and i am encouraging him to ask that the ex have supervised visits until her emotional state is more stable is this behavior abuse

[Travelinglady]

She does sound like she is being inappropriate in her notion of proper punishment. I hope someone will see that she is monitored. That kind of thing can be very emotionally damaging to children after a certain age.

[IowaFarmGal]

Hello Jellyfish! Welcome to Psych Central! I'm so sorry to hear this about your niece. I hope she is doing alright. I think that was cruel and also unsafe.

[henrydavidtherobot]

I'm very sorry that hear that she would do that to a child. Has your niece talked to you about it?

[harrietshuman]

that is horrible ! I hope the sittuation improves soon !

kelly

[avlady]

That's awful!!!!!She could catch a bad cold or pleurisy or some other illness too. i can't believe someone would go so far

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Jellyfish5

my brother is divorced and recently in new romance. he just found out hid ex wife decided to punish their 9 yr old daughter by making her stand outside naked. i am shocked and scared for my niece. my brother , ex wife and girls are in counseling and i am encouraging him to ask that the ex have supervised visits until her emotional state is more stable is this behavior abuse

here un New York which is in the USA anyone....teachers therapists, doctors, nurses, friends, relatives neighbors...anyone can call the child abuse hotline if they suspect there is a case of child abuse..the number is 1-800-422 - 4453.

beware though since you didnt actually witness the child being put out in the cold naked, you are only getting this information second hand.. sometimes second hand information has been changed, embellished or not true.

I have had cases of suspected child abuse where this same situation turned out to be one ex spouse throwing around false allegations against the other in order to discredit that ex spouses reputation with the children as a way to gain custody or stop visitation.

I have also seen cases where this same thing was just a fabrication of the child because their mom or dad made them do their homework/chores or other arguments with the parents.

I even had cases where a child between the ages of 5-15 where they had friends that actually went through this or read about it on line. they liked all the special things that their friend or the online story told about. for example one case thought if they said their parent did this they would get a laptop computer because when their friend went into foster care their friend got a free laptop for their school work while they attended a different school that used computers in the classroom. when it was time for the child to move back into the area with their grandparent the child got to keep the laptop...this child thought by going to foster care they would get a laptop too and then be returned to their parents. when the child discovered she wasnt getting a computer she came clean with everyone on the case.

my point is getting information second hand instead of actually witnessing the situation can turn wrong very quickly...

the best thing you can do for any situation that you feel may be a case of child abuse is report it to the police, the child abuse hotline or other social services agency. then let them do their investigation to find out for sure whats going on in that home while the child is with that parent.

[Pikku Myy]

NOT ACCEPTABLE!!!!!! Keep a log and next time you witness this... call 911!!!! Children are pure & beautiful... and molded by the love vs. lack of love they receive....