[Fleury29]

When I was quiet, people didn't like that. When I tried talking to people, I found no one would let me join in on group conversations. So I decided to go to one on one conversations, no one likes me then either. It always seems I am wrong no matter what I do. I used to daydream about having friends, but not anymore, no one seems to want to explain what I am doing wrong, just shun me for any little thing I do. It can be something as simple as looking in the wrong direction, or talking at the wrong time, or any number of things, it is getting to the point where I just don't care anymore and will just go back to not talking at all, since no one will tell me what it is I can do to not make people like me. All I can understand is they don't like me, and I don't really understand why. I'm fairly certain I have aspergers.

[IowaFarmGal]

Hello Fleury29! Welcome to Psych Central! Well maybe it will work better for you online. I'm not good with conversations either and I don't have any friends, just the people I work with. I hope this works better, it kind evens things up because there are no facial expressions or body language for anybody to read. Good Luck here.

[H3rmit]

Originally Posted by Fleury29

When I was quiet, people didn't like that. When I tried talking to people, I found no one would let me join in on group conversations. So I decided to go to one on one conversations, no one likes me then either. It always seems I am wrong no matter what I do. I used to daydream about having friends, but not anymore, no one seems to want to explain what I am doing wrong, just shun me for any little thing I do. It can be something as simple as looking in the wrong direction, or talking at the wrong time, or any number of things, it is getting to the point where I just don't care anymore and will just go back to not talking at all, since no one will tell me what it is I can do to not make people like me. All I can understand is they don't like me, and I don't really understand why. I'm fairly certain I have aspergers.

I can totally relate to what you've said. They told me to come out of my shell, but when I did, they said, "Go back in!"

Someone advised me about people, "Be cautious." Very complex mammals with complex cultures. I found some books by Leil Lowndes helpful. Practical stuff to try and it was helpful, but I still have no friends. At least I have my husband, now.

[Fleury29]

I'll settle for someone that will talk to me like a normal person and not leave me feeling bad every time I talk to them, thanks for the replies.

[H3rmit]

Originally Posted by Fleury29

I'll settle for someone that will talk to me like a normal person and not leave me feeling bad every time I talk to them.

I found that it doesn't so much depend on the people, but on what I do. I had to learn some social behaviours to fit in, and what behaviours to expect in response and how to interpret them. Very hard and unnatural at first, but seemed to be the only way for me, and it does get easier over time. There will rarely be a person to break through my barriers, someone who just loves and is fascinated by all people.

[QuietSoul2013]

Originally Posted by Fleury29

When I was quiet, people didn't like that. When I tried talking to people, I found no one would let me join in on group conversations. So I decided to go to one on one conversations, no one likes me then either. It always seems I am wrong no matter what I do. I used to daydream about having friends, but not anymore, no one seems to want to explain what I am doing wrong, just shun me for any little thing I do. It can be something as simple as looking in the wrong direction, or talking at the wrong time, or any number of things, it is getting to the point where I just don't care anymore and will just go back to not talking at all, since no one will tell me what it is I can do to not make people like me. All I can understand is they don't like me, and I don't really understand why. I'm fairly certain I have aspergers.

I relate totally.
I found with me tho, that once I revealed my true self and live my life how I wanted to, instead of how I was expected to, I was able to talk to people.
Not too many people listen to me very often which is VERY frustrating. I don't talk very loud (at least not as loud as other people) so people talk over me all the time. VERY frustrating. But here ... either people respond to my posts or they don't. If they don't, I figure it's because they have nothing useful to say to me. If they do, but don't have anything useful to say to me, I'll move on to someone more promising. No one can talk over me. If no one wants to talk to me, I can always delete my account and go somewhere else to vent.
I think it's important to be able to vent out our daily frustrations in some way, and right now, I think this site is a good place to do it. Whether it's by starting new threads or by commenting on other's threads that you relate to, it doesn't matter. Your voice can and will be heard. But ... just be nice in whatever you write and you'll be fine.