I finally got the courage to talk to my Mother about myself (as explained in my other threads) and she threw it back in my face. She sais I'm doing it all for a reaction and need to see a psychiatrist for attention seeking. I don't know where to turn now. I really need help. It's ruining my life. I don't know if I want to do this anymore...

[tinyrabbit]

I'm so sorry (((hugs)))

[yellowted]

so sorry you did not get the response you hoped for from your mum, i have not read your pother posts so this may be way off mark, but in my experience, parents can be blind to a lot of things that happen to their children, and often are unwilling to acknowledge this or things that happened which they are fully aware of, because acknowledgeing things were not right is admitting they were not good parents, or that they failed at protecting you in their eyes and no-one wants to admit failure especially to their children.
this however does not excuse her behaviour now, throwing it back at you was wrong, the least she should have done is listen to you.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by NoxiousSanity

I finally got the courage to talk to my Mother about myself (as explained in my other threads) and she threw it back in my face. She sais I'm doing it all for a reaction and need to see a psychiatrist for attention seeking. I don't know where to turn now. I really need help. It's ruining my life. I don't know if I want to do this anymore...

I know many people who start out seeing a mental health treatment provider for one reason and end up being treated for others...

example I started out being treated for suspected child abuse assessment and ended up being treated for depression, bipolar disorder, PTSd, dissociative disorders, an eating disorder....and others.

many parents bring their children in to the crisis center with the reasoning of"I dont know why he is doing this, probably just for attention..." and it turns out the child has a mental disorder or learning disorder or other physical /mental health issue...

my suggestion...let your mother have her belief...its not like you can control what your mother thinks and doesnt think anyway..agree with her...you want help heres a way for you to get it.

you start seeing a psychiatrist because your mother believes you are doing things for attention and you get to see this psychiatrist to talk about anything that you feel needs to be taken care of..

the psychiatrist will inform your mother what is wrong with you and how to best treat what ever problems you may have..

to me its a win win situation.. you get the help you need without the stress of trying to convince your mother whats wrong with you. and your mother will find out on her own through the doctor that its not for attention.

sometimes its not how or why we end up in treatment, its getting the treatment we need thats important.

[NOS-NOS]

Originally Posted by NoxiousSanity

I finally got the courage to talk to my Mother about myself (as explained in my other threads) and she threw it back in my face. She sais I'm doing it all for a reaction and need to see a psychiatrist for attention seeking. I don't know where to turn now. I really need help. It's ruining my life. I don't know if I want to do this anymore...

Unfortunately some people don't believe in the mental health system. When I was young I had bad depression but as I was on my way out the door to see the psychologist with my parents, my grandfather came to the front step and said "he doesn't need that s#$%it," then my parents asked me if I wanted to go. I said no, influenced by my grandfather's comments, but looking back I wish I had gone. I don't know who to blame more, my grandfather, or my parents for putting that on me (if it was my kid I would have told my grandfather it was none of his business). Anyway, that's all history.

Can you go see the doctor yourself? Are you in a position to do so? If so, I would do my best to do what's best for me, regardless of what others think, even if it is your own mother. You obviously have problems that need tending to. jmho

[demjena]

there is nothing more daunting than be left aside by your familly, partner or constantly judged by freinds all of a simple, stupid predjudice, especially at the time you might need the support the most, sorry to hear.

[Travelinglady]

I'm sorry you didn't get her support, but I agree that you need to look after yourself. We can't always please our parents once we get to be adults. We have to parent ourselves.

Just a thought: Maybe some parents don't like their children in therapy because they think it reflects badly on them. Or it might be a religious issue, etc.

religion should not determine whether someone should go into therapy or not. therapy is not always the cure to your emotional issues. most of the time it requires you to reach out to others more. find a good friend whom you can confide in. let him/her know that you are suffering from this. maybe he/she can give you some advice.

[Inedible]

Originally Posted by NoxiousSanity

I finally got the courage to talk to my Mother about myself (as explained in my other threads) and she threw it back in my face. She sais I'm doing it all for a reaction and need to see a psychiatrist for attention seeking. I don't know where to turn now. I really need help. It's ruining my life. I don't know if I want to do this anymore...

The other two threads you posted in, for people who want to check them quickly ...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/paran...-help-ppd.html

http://forums.psychcentral.com/other...is-please.html

If your blood pressure is high enough, I suggest seeing if your regular doctor would consider putting you on Propranolol XR. It isn't just to lower your blood pressure. It has all kinds of effects like reducing anxiety in social settings. They prescribe it for stage fright. I can see how it would make a big improvement in most of the symptoms you listed. And I think your Mom would find it easier to accept.