Why are people so judgemental?

Everyone in my year that i know judges. Actually everyone judges but 90% of people dont keep it to themselves and go behind other peoples backs! why cant eveyone just except eachother for who they are and move on!!

I know there are lots of people who joy critisising but cant take criticism themselves. I think you actually have to think, an art which much of the general public have forgotten how to do! Sagitarius people always laugh and say "I don't think before I speak" and I think why are you laughing about upsetting people, but then these people just say "you should be thicker skinned". I fell out with a mate who was offensive to me, and when I told him that his comment was hurtful he said "I did nothing wrong, you chose to be offended". You know I just don't need such people in my life, and I just tell such animals that i'm not taking it, and that our friendship has ceased. Some think about it and try to change, others don't care, but its better to tell them if you think theyre nasty so at least they have a chance to change

I've wondered this myself. How do people believe that they are entitled to make a judgement? That means they feel superior and can look down and judge someone else. Strange how people do that. It's actually inhumane a lot of the time and then sharing it with others...well, that's just slimy.

when subject to pressures from remarkable sources...?
all people are in a permanent state of intimidation....!

when comforted by love from unremarkable sources...?
not everyone will respond with imagination.

put simply?

some people take alot longer than you ever did to arrive at the conclusion that comfort is better than pain.

it's just a shame that some are exposed to pain before they get a chance to decide...

..and while you ask all the questions?....they just fight more and more and you ask why...again and again?

I know this because I am one of those that acted badly before he thought about it.

People base everything they believe in and everything they know on their own limited amount of experiences and if something doesn't fit neatly in to that, it is wrong or bad and they are judgemental against it.

Believe it or not, many, many, many years ago, this attitude was not a bad thing. It was actually a survival instinct. If something didn't "fit" one avoided it because it could harm you. Now, however, we live in a much larger world and society and people still react that way, which almost never applies anymore.

As Maranara says, it is built in. But I have found that a lot I felt as judgmental was actually just other people making observations and I just felt it as negative. We have to listen to what everyone else says, kind of like radar, to find our way around. So, if someone says, "A little more to the left" that is not a judgement about how we are too far right, that is just a helpful statement that in the other person's opinion, we might need to go a little more left. I think of it as two people working together to get a picture hung straight on the wall?

If it is about us and behind our backs we're not supposed to be listening and if it is about another, we let the other person know our opinion, which is that if they have a problem with that person they're talking about, they should share it with them, not us, or we look at what is said and see if we can help in some way. "Susie smells bad" is a social problem and we might be able to help by affirming that we think she does too and we all should figure out how to ask her to bathe more often (my stepmother had that problem in a place she worked back in the 1950's, another woman had poor hygiene and my stepmother was elected to help the woman learn she needed to take better care of herself) or, we might be able to speak up and say, "I haven't noticed that, are you sure it's not your nose?"

But I have been greatly helped over time by people I thought were judgmental/critical, "You don't smile enough" being a case in point. I looked at that information and realized just how depressed and what kind of difficulties I was in and went into therapy soon after. I find that focusing on what is said instead of worrying about what people "mean" by it, if they are being judgmental, cruel, informative, whatever. Their attitudes/moods are not my problem? Best though is giving them the information about how you find their statement, "That sounds judgmental to me" can open the way for a good discussion and help the other person maybe not sound so judgmental or show me where the difficulty is with me and how I take what others say, etc.

Oh, people love to judge others!
Over the years, I have learned not to let it bother me. People can say what they want, it doesn't make it true.
Some people have insecurities and it's makes them feel better, putting other people down. I've learned to totally ignore judgmental people, it's how I feel about myself that's most important. I never met a perfect person and I doubt I ever will. What's makes these people's opinions so important.......nothing

That's a total copout. It's funny since the statement is meant to imply a lack of responsibility for one's reactions, when in all reality it demonstrates a lack of responsibility in one's actions. I hate when people turn it around like that. 'I did nothing wrong'. Argh. It just stops the opportunity for growth and communication dead in its tracks.

I read a passage in a book that says that judgment is a very common human action, though it is not humane. It also mentions that the act of remaining nonjudgmental takes practice and is lifelong work. Makes sense to me. I'm judgmental as hell. I have to constantly remind myself that no matter how a person or situation appears to me, I have very few facts.

Sorry, I know what you're going through. It's bullying for sure, but at the same time, it's just human nature, I guess. Everyone is just trying to survive. I think, experiencing this type of stress is what creates 'inverted Narcissists'; just do your best to get along well with people, no matter how much effort you have to put forth, I suppose

By my statement, I never intended to imply that bullying isn't hard or that people have the right to be jerks. I was just trying to point out that to some degree it is distinctive behavior. That doesn't give any one the right to treat you like a doormat or be overly mean to you. I understand what that is like; I've been there many times.

I find this all so true - I think it's easier to look at others and their problems to look at yourself, and your problems sometimes.

Human beings have a primitive brain used to judge "everything" in old days for survival. This is the base line before communication, before evolution.

What I have been taught is,
Defining Judgement is essential to learning and becoming a wiser person.

A new word discernment, the ability to make good judgments/decisions about things instead of being stuck in that one dimenional view.

There is good judgement and poor judgement.
I ask myself if I am being kind or are my words and thoughts are hurtful.
Happie
Learning to leave those right fighters alone because their battle is within themselves and have no room in my space.