Venting...might be a trigger for some....

I'm really not sure how to deal with this. My daughter (20) went out with her dad this morning to go pick up a cell phone for me (to do a family line-I had a pay as you go & it just made more sense for she & I to do a family plan, it cost less). He was all over her with questions and insults-why does your mother need a cell phone? to go out for a walk? what does she do?

Background: I have PTSD and agoraphobia-I use the cell phone when I leave the house because it helps me feel safer. I've been, let's say to put it nicely "cornered" more than once by the "attacker". I've dealt with this ongoing issue for over 15 years (long, long story & he knows all about it).

He just went on to berate me in front of her, and she asked to go home and he said NO, we are going to get your mom a cell phone...and then pretended like nothing happened. Not even sure why I am writing this, it just upsets me so. I don't think people get just how much stuff like this triggers me, or how rotten I feel, like I don't desrve a life...it's hard enough being this way, and working real hard when so many feel your life is a joke.

I'm glad I found this place. I feel like it really is the only support I do have. My daughter is a good kid, and I have a cousin and sis-in-law that are good to me, but I don't think any of them really understand how hard it is (they really do their best too, and are supportive, it's just they never had to deal with it).

I left him a message, trying not too be too angry, and told him Allie told me what happened, I'd appreciate him staying out of my business and keeping his comments to himself. Cause he was also talking about her cousin (his sister's son), what a loser he is (J is 21, and has major depression issues, has a hard time keeping a job or staying motivated), that upset my daughter even more...because she knows he thinks of me that way too!

Ugh, sorry, my mind is just reeling right now with flashbacks, lots of them....I just need a real good cry I think.

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(((((((( alisandria )))))))))))
Im so sorry you are upset.
But you are not alone here at PC.
I can relate kind of to what you mean when you say you dont think people get how hard it is to deal and cope with all your stuff. I feel the same way, and it is hard. But I understand you!
You go ahead and cry all you want, im sure you'll feel at least a bit better!
Hugs,
-Megan-

Thanks, I feel a bit better now. Still not happy with the way he dealt with stuff, but then again, that is why I am not with him any more, right?

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