Why do I always overgeneralize things? like if one group of people did this, i would be like oh look these people are so adept at math and i wonder why i can't be a part of that. and then others will try to refute me by saying,"Just because you're... does not mean you can't have other abilities..Though this may not be your strong point, you can always identify other areas that you think you excel in." And when I don't fit the stereotypes, I'm just a little upset. Like everyone else in my race is studying science and math and for me to not be good at math is like being a disgrace to my people.

[allimsaying]

Whatever type of thinking that is causing you to reason that you have less worth than others is an unhealthy way of thinking. It sounds like you've received good advice on this.

[optimize990h]

Have you ever considered using negative energy and converting it into positive energy?
If you felt "not good enough" in something(personal qualities etc), could it be possible to take as a challenge to do something that made you feel confident? It doesn't have to be the best result, just that you became proficient at it.

For example, I wish I could speak more languages because now, the motivating issue is to understand that small phrase or characteristic of a language that makes it colourful(colourful in terms of interesting, appealing, not cuss words.)

Originally Posted by allimsaying

Whatever type of thinking that is causing you to reason that you have less worth than others is an unhealthy way of thinking. It sounds like you've received good advice on this.

whenever i had those terrible thoughts, I felt like someone was actually out there invoking evil on me or if something went wrong, like someone bullied me, I would blame others for using my name for certain things. I used to believe that there had to be a reason for that. It can't just be someone's bad day all the time. there must be a reason.

[allimsaying]

I understand the feeling of 'some mysterious factor' at work in my life that I couldnt understand. Before I was able to reason out all the different influences that make my surroundings into what they are, it seemed to me some dark evil mysterious plot was at work against me personally. Ive slowly unraveled a lot of that and recognized that there are influences at work which can affect individual peoples behaviors and those behaviors in turn influence other peoples actions. It isnt so much an organized conspiracy like I used to think. Its more like one gear turning another gear, turning another gear. We, as individuals, are free to choose our level of involvement in the various activities available to us and in that way have our own part with influencing the environment. Its a lot to unscramble but knowing that you are a part of the whole process gives you a power to influence it in one way or another. The healthiest options arent always the most popularly chosen and thats why we have bullying, etc... imo. Simplified version.