[Fuzzybear]

I am very bad at it..... my parents never complimented me, as I remember. I used to cry in kindergarten when the teacher used to play "The Ugly Duckling" but I was too ashamed of my tears to cry openly........ and I wasn't even ugly

I have been burned by ppl who I cared about and who were warm and called me sweetie but then? I realised they didn't care at all. And I blamed myself (and so did they. sigh. nope it isn't ALL my fault )

why oh why am I writing all this today

[allthegirls6]

fuzzy,

youve turned into a chatterbox! It suits you

i sure hope that you keep writing! you always bring up such interesting subjects for thought.....

[SeptemberMorn]

Maybe you put too much meaning into the words?? Did you read my thread on "terms of endearment"?? "How much stock do you ..." Give it a read and read between the lines, too!

[seeker1950]

LOL...I never rec'd compliments as a child either...ever! Now, I give them to people frequently, and I am always sincere! If I see something I like about a person, I usually comment favorably, be it their shoes, their hair, something they did or said. Why I'm this way, I do not know, since I never rec'd this kind of feedback growing up. Interestingly, I also married a man who never, ever complimented me, in 20 miserable years of marriage! Anyway, I go on happily complimenting people, and sometimes people actually compliment me as well! I accept this with graciousness!
Patty

[JustAPixie]

At least the compliments you get here are real and truly meant! You are great Fuzzy!

(((((FuzzyBear)))))))

[Fuzzybear]

thank you!! (((((((((((( Everyone ))))))))))))))

Fuzzy

[Bethsway]

Fuzzybear...I know the kind of people who are always complimenting and not meaning it...but want you to know that if I tell someone something I do mean it...and I am glad you are chatting more...You have lots of good things to say!!!

[Fuzzybear]

thanks Bethsway! I appreciate you and everyone who has supported me today

fuzz, i'm confused. are you talking about someone here? pat

[bebop]

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LOL...I never rec'd compliments as a child either...ever! Now, I give them to people frequently, and I am always sincere! If I see something I like about a person, I usually comment favorably, be it their shoes, their hair, something they did or said. Why I'm this way, I do not know, since I never rec'd this kind of feedback growing up. Interestingly, I also married a man who never, ever complimented me, in 20 miserable years of marriage! Anyway, I go on happily complimenting people, and sometimes people actually compliment me as well! I accept this with graciousness!
Patty

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Same here. My brother and I were just talking about something like this the other day. how can 3 kids brought up the same way be so different. We were abused by our mom and all are so different in how we deal with it now. I love to give compliments and I do mean them. I know how it feels to be treated wrongly and I do what I can to treat people the way I want to be treated.
Fuzzy you rock hon!

[Zorah]

Hey there (((((seeker))))) & (((((bebop)))))

It's kinda weird isn't it ?? We're in the same position,

we certainly understand where you're both coming from

As for my {{{{{Fuzziest one}}}}}

Darling, it is hard to learn to receive compliments, when you aren't used to them, our husband never did work out how.

[Fuzzybear]

Why do you ask? I am talking about ME and MY pain. Isn't that what we are all here for?

xo Fuzzy

ps please PM me if you wish to discuss this further, I do not wish this thread to be locked ........ just in case, ya know

I always (nowadays) reply to PMs so long as they are respectful. Again, no dig at anyone here, just MY feelings.

[Fuzzybear]

thanks hon ((((((((((((((( bebop )))))))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

thanks dearest Zorah

(((((((((((( zorah )))))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

PS I am not being mean, but I find your question slightly disingenuous (sp). We all know that talking about anyone here is against the guidelines, and so, none of the posters here ever do that!

I have found a pattern in my REAL LIFE.... yes I do have one ...... where I seem to attract slightly older women, who are a little (?) controlling. They seem to adopt me and are very kind and helpful. But then it goes wrong. I do not blame them.... it is the dynamics of the relationship

Take care,
Fuzzy

[bipolar_bear]

I'm glad you are seeing that it wasn't your fault. It must be hard to learn to accept compliments now after so many years of being denied.

fuzzy, to facilitate no misunderstanding, i am PMingyou.

[Fuzzybear]

thanks bear and pat

take care,
Fuzzy

[heartspace]

I like to give compliments but only if they are genuine. I didn't grow up with compliments - quite the opposite in fact - but I guess I've tried to provide for others what I didn't receive growing up. Not easy though when you haven't grown up with compliments though, to even realize to give them. Don't even know if that makes sense

[Fuzzybear]

thanks heartspace! It does make sense and I think I'm getting better at giving and receiving compliments, and also not reading too much (or too little) into them What you wrote makes sense to me

Take care,
Fuzzy