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I am very bad at it..... my parents never complimented me, as I remember. I used to cry in kindergarten when the teacher used to play "The Ugly Duckling" but I was too ashamed of my tears to cry openly........ and I wasn't even ugly
![]() I have been burned by ppl who I cared about and who were warm and called me sweetie but then? I realised they didn't care at all. And I blamed myself ![]() ![]() why oh why am I writing all this today ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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fuzzy,
youve turned into a chatterbox! It suits you ![]()
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i sure hope that you keep writing! you always bring up such interesting subjects for thought.....
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Maybe you put too much meaning into the words?? Did you read my thread on "terms of endearment"?? "How much stock do you ..." Give it a read and read between the lines, too!
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LOL...I never rec'd compliments as a child either...ever! Now, I give them to people frequently, and I am always sincere! If I see something I like about a person, I usually comment favorably, be it their shoes, their hair, something they did or said. Why I'm this way, I do not know, since I never rec'd this kind of feedback growing up. Interestingly, I also married a man who never, ever complimented me, in 20 miserable years of marriage! Anyway, I go on happily complimenting people, and sometimes people actually compliment me as well! I accept this with graciousness!
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At least the compliments you get here are real and truly meant! You are great Fuzzy!
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(((((FuzzyBear)))))))
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thank you!! (((((((((((( Everyone ))))))))))))))
Fuzzy ![]() ![]()
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Fuzzybear...I know the kind of people who are always complimenting and not meaning it...but want you to know that if I tell someone something I do mean it...and I am glad you are chatting more...You have lots of good things to say!!!
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thanks Bethsway! I appreciate you and everyone who has supported me today
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fuzz, i'm confused. are you talking about someone here? pat
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
seeker1950 said: LOL...I never rec'd compliments as a child either...ever! Now, I give them to people frequently, and I am always sincere! If I see something I like about a person, I usually comment favorably, be it their shoes, their hair, something they did or said. Why I'm this way, I do not know, since I never rec'd this kind of feedback growing up. Interestingly, I also married a man who never, ever complimented me, in 20 miserable years of marriage! Anyway, I go on happily complimenting people, and sometimes people actually compliment me as well! I accept this with graciousness! Patty </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Same here. My brother and I were just talking about something like this the other day. how can 3 kids brought up the same way be so different. We were abused by our mom and all are so different in how we deal with it now. I love to give compliments and I do mean them. I know how it feels to be treated wrongly and I do what I can to treat people the way I want to be treated. Fuzzy you rock hon!
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Hey there (((((seeker))))) & (((((bebop))))) It's kinda weird isn't it ?? We're in the same position, we certainly understand where you're both coming from ![]() As for my {{{{{Fuzziest one}}}}} ![]() ![]() Darling, it is hard to learn to receive compliments, when you aren't used to them, our husband never did work out how.
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Why do you ask? I am talking about ME and MY pain. Isn't that what we are all here for?
xo Fuzzy ps please PM me if you wish to discuss this further, I do not wish this thread to be locked ........ just in case, ya know ![]() I always (nowadays) reply to PMs so long as they are respectful. Again, no dig at anyone here, just MY feelings.
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thanks hon ((((((((((((((( bebop )))))))))))))))
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thanks dearest Zorah
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PS I am not being mean, but I find your question slightly disingenuous (sp). We all know that talking about anyone here is against the guidelines, and so, none of the posters here ever do that!
I have found a pattern in my REAL LIFE.... yes I do have one ![]() ![]() Take care, Fuzzy
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I'm glad you are seeing that it wasn't your fault. It must be hard to learn to accept compliments now after so many years of being denied.
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fuzzy, to facilitate no misunderstanding, i am PMingyou.
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thanks bear and pat
take care, Fuzzy
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I like to give compliments but only if they are genuine. I didn't grow up with compliments - quite the opposite in fact
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thanks heartspace! It does make sense and I think I'm getting better at giving and receiving compliments, and also not reading too much (or too little) into them
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