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I'm a really good, hardworking student. My dad covers most of my living and school expenses. He says that he is proud of me and happy to do it, but I am beginning to feel so guilty. He is struggling with money and I feel like a huge burden and piece of poop. This is my last semester, so hopefully I can become more independent after this. I tried holding down two jobs on top of school, my editing gig, and my internship, but my heart acted up and I had fainting spells. I tell him that I am grateful all the time. I don't know how to accept this loving gift without hating myself for it.
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I, too, had parents that helped me. I always felt guilty, too. It wasn't until later in their lives that I was able to help them. When their health started to fail I was all they had to help out. Don't worry, your father does this because he loves you. You will one day have your chance to repay him by being there for him when he needs you. Let go of the guilt. What is given out of love should not cause guilt. It's not what he would want.
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As a parent of two college students, I have to say I don't regret helping my kids out. In fact, I don't want them to have much debt when they get out and am glad to do it. We are blessed that they do get lots of financial aid, though. We still have to pay for housing, incidentals, clothing, etc.
If your dad didn't want to do it, then I think he would say he couldn't. I can understand wanting to feel guilty, but I don't think it's necessary. Just remember down the road that your dad might need some help (financial or otherwise) and if you can, then it would be nice to help him some. ![]() |
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Give it a couple of years and you may be in a position to help your dad out. Try and think long term. Both of you are doing your best.
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It is very hard to put ourselves in the position of those older than we are and understand where they are coming from because we have not yet had experiences like theirs. Think back to something you understand now that you did not when you were first introduced to it and realize it will be like that all your life; when you have children of your own, you may understand what you dad is saying now, for example
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