[tommylee]

do you guys think that redemption is passible, and that i can fix a friendship with someone whom i have wronged ?

[Rhapsody]

Of course..... IF your actions and your words are truly changed / sorry and then accepted by the other person.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[tommylee]

but can this other pearson accept it ?

[Rhapsody]

That is a ANSWER that only they can give..... but YES, I think they can..... depending on what they are forgiving.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[tommylee]

forgiving mistakes i guess

[Rhapsody]

Yes..... MISTAKES, but some are harder to forgive than others..... can YOU be more specific?

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[sabby]

No one can answer what another human being will accept. If that person is one who trusts words and actions of others, if they have the capacity for forgiveness, if they feel your relationship is worth salvaging, then sure they will make the effort to repair the broken part of your relationship. But, if they feel they have been hurt beyond their limit, or they do not have a capacity for forgiveness, etc....then I would say that the relationship cannot be repaired. That being said, it doesn't mean you shouldn't take responsibility for your actions and put your heartfelt apology in words and actions out there for the other individual to do with as they see fit. You will feel better for having done that and you will know that you truly tried to repair the damage. From there, it's up to the other individual.

Good luck to you, and I pray your relationship can be healed.

[tommylee]

hurting people emotionally, but not purposley, just because of pain

[Rhapsody]

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hurting people emotionally, but not purposley, just because of pain

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YOU hurt another EMOTIONALLY due to your own inner pain / wounds? - male or female

[tommylee]

thank you Rhapsody and Sabau, i guess it is up to this other pearson

[sabby]

You're welcome Tommy....I know it's not easy sometimes to know that forgiveness from someone may or may not come in the way we hope it will. And it's possible it may take time and work on your part to prove you are truly sorry for something before they will begin to let you back into their heart again. We've all been there before, and it's scary not knowing.

hugsssssssssssssssssssss

[tommylee]

a women

[tommylee]

a woman (sorry )

[Rhapsody]

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a woman (sorry )

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Only SHE can really say...... just know that we females feel wrongs more strongly then men do at times, and at times it is hard for us to heal - but we can heal.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[tommylee]

so with time, after some time passes i mean, i can try to fix my mistakes and tell her that i am sorry?

[Rhapsody]

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so with time, after some time passes i mean, i can try to fix my mistakes and tell her that i am sorry?

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Yes..... in time YOU can try.... but I would tell her that YOU are truly SORRY now - for then that may lessen her wound and inner hurt.... she maybe be able to heal faster with I AM SORRY THAT I HURT YOU SO.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[tommylee]

thanks Rhapsody, i think that`s what i am gonna do.
tell her i am sorry now
Tommy

[Rhapsody]

GOOD - Very Good........................

[Bethsway]

good advice Rhapsody...tommylee good luck! and remember actions speak louder than words...give her time to forgive!

[therealme]

as someone who has hurt someone and been forgiven, my advice is not to rush or put pressure on this woman, just try to show her that you have learnt from your mistakes and your so very sorry
good luck tommy

[JustAPixie]

Just remember that a healing relationship takes time and space. If you smother someone and they feel forced to accept your apology then they will not...

[tommylee]

how do i do it with out being around that pearson ?

[tommylee]

Tanya so, i have to give it time and hope for the best ?

[alisandria]

Why are you not around that person? Are you barred from seeing her (like a restraining order)? If that's not the case, and it's just a case of you don't come into contact with her in your every day life, can you write her a short note? or email? phone her?

G'luck Lisa

[tommylee]

no restraining order, just don`t see her much. But i alreday did that (write her the note) so she has it and i guess now i just have to leave it up to time and her with hope
Tommy