[tealBumblebee]

What do you want in life? I'm sure this is a question many people have asked themselves over and over again. And I don't think there's a single answer out there, nor do I think that any answer is permanent. My "take away" from the week is working on figuring out what I want - so that I can create some sort of baseline and in hopes find the beginning of a path to contentment.

I know that there are different components to life: career, finance, family, friendships, relationships, health, future, self, etc. But what do you ask yourself to even begin to figure out what it is you want? Everything i do in life is based around someone elses desires, possible reactions, instruction or suggestions. I know where I stand on a very few things, and I am strong in those few. But they don't necessarily affect me and once again, are centered around the needs of other people.

How do you dig deeper into yourself to find out what it is you want? What makes you happy? What you're living for?

What you want to do? Where would one even begin?

[thisiswhoiamiguess]

I just want to be comfortable living. Going out in public and not worrying about breaking down or anything. I mean money and cars and all that would be great too but first I want to be normal.

[brackenbeard]

a lot of great questions here.

first of all congratulations for having the fortitude to come up with these questions. you're obviously on the right path already.

the question i like to start with is: what do i value?

for example, I value
1. helping others
2. standing up for a cause
3. friendship

if i can go about my life and do/have those three things I'm a pretty happy guy.

i'm not always happy though. but i know i'm doing what i'm here to do.

[Lillyleaf]

Usually, I start with... I want to be okay.

Well what does okay mean?
I have a family? Job? college?

Or, you can start out with what you don't want...

But, even better pick just one goal. Graduate, a degree, a job... something big, but very "achievable". It should all slowly fit into place.

Best of luck,

Lillyleaf

[ungumuda]

Great post TealBumblebee
To be honest I don't know what I want in life. To live comfortably I suppose, but in what way I don't know. I still need to figure things out, maybe when I know I'll be much better

[Grey Matter]

I want to reach a point where I understand more of myself. I feel like we lose track of what we want when we jump ahead into the future (as someone with anxiety that's hard not to do -_-) and when we start making other people our planets and stars and care for them more than ourselves.

I know I want to complete my education. I know I want to reach a point where I can live alone. I just want to be happy. Everything else will figure out it's own way.

[the sad queen]

i dont love this question because i want alot of imaginary things and end up miserable ,i dont know what i really want to be i am still in high school, in day i say i want to be artist, then another day writer, then surgeon...
i always live for people happiness. i have never cared about myself and what i want.
in the mean time i am not thinking about future anymore, the only thing that makes me alive praying to god to enlighten my path and make everything to what's better.

[Blue_Bird]

It depends on what you want in life, I would find goals to start working on that would get you closer to having the life you want and would be happy with.

For me, I want to be happy and content with life. I want to feel like I have stability mentally and in my actual life. I don't want to wake up everyday wishing I wasn't here, I don't want to talk myself out of jobs because of my aniety. My goals are to get a job, restart and get a degree in college. Hopefully one day I'll be able to own my own house and a car, and just live a life without being afraid of everything. Eventually I know I want a career where I can help other people, which is something that really makes me happy and I'd love to do.

[tinyrabbit]

I am happy with many elements of my life, but not within myself. So what I want is:
- To learn to live with my wounds and be more at peace with the past.
- To learn to accept the good things in my life and stop having imposter syndrome.
- To get rid of my nasty inner voice.

I keep telling my T that my life is fine, I'm the problem - I need to change my ability to experience and enjoy my life. That didn't used to be the case though. It's taken a LOT of work to get to this point, even before I started T, just working on improving my life.

Good questions.
Lately I've been realizing that what I truly want in life is balance. Often the extreme ups and downs of everyday life makes it seem like I am living on a constantly moving see-saw. I want to be able to more effectively accept and deal with those ups and downs, and to find a middle ground - just...being, just...living in the moment I suppose.
Balancing priorities is also important. I tend to pick one category of life - say, my career - on which to intensely focus, and everything else goes down the drain. Why not tend to each of them, not always equally perhaps, but in a way where I can feel content?
A lot of the time I want to be perfect (working on telling myself that is a myth), and I think if I can't be perfect, or if I can't be good - why try? In my head, it is either perfection or nothing. I know there is a middle, a grey area. That's what I am trying to find.

I'd love to be stable enough so I don't have to figure out how to deal with myself everyday

[newtus]

i want a purpose in life. in anything. be it college or love or family or career.

my main issue is i have no purpose in anything. without something vague i have no little things to do in life. you know?

all those are vague but when u have a base then you can build. i have no base. maybe i just want happiness. part of my lack of peace is having no purpose. but having no purpose is part of having no guidance either. im sick of little things here and there that dont mean anything. like they lead nowhere for me and theres always a dead end.