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Old Oct 02, 2006, 03:08 PM
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Is anyone else like this?

I have given up on trying to get a few people to see that I even have a valid point of view Wanting to mend disputes between others And this includes my parents Wanting to mend disputes between others To see that I have valid reasons to feel hurt and abused. Wanting to mend disputes between others To see that I HAVE been ABUSED.

So maybe that is partly why I am feeling a need to spare others all the pain and nastyness I have been through. Not every misunderstanding has to end in a life long feud or ignoring games Wanting to mend disputes between others... or with one party leaving a situation/place that might otherwise be "healthy" or at least positive in some aspects for them Wanting to mend disputes between others Wanting to mend disputes between others
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Old Oct 02, 2006, 03:12 PM
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I try, I fail and eventually I quit trying to do the same thing you do. You're a good ... bear ... and your heart is in the right spot, but sometimes it just feels so hopeless doesn't it?

I'm sorry Fuzzy. Wanting to mend disputes between others
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Old Oct 02, 2006, 03:14 PM
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You having to understand coping skills -- sometimes people just shut down because they do not know how to cope with the situation or a reaction ..
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Old Oct 02, 2006, 04:27 PM
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It's been my experience that it doesn't work to be a peacemaker. I always found myself at the short end of the stick. Nothing was really resolved, or they resolved it on their own, their own way and I was ostracized.

Most times, when you try to give your side of a story, try to set your own boundaries, people MAY respect your boundaries but either won't or don't understand. Sometimes they'll even push those boundaries to test you or your resolve.

My ex-husband is the only abuser still alive and as long as I don't have to deal with him anymore than I already do, I see no point in saying much of anything. The only time I see him now is at two of the grandkid's birthday parties. He can take a long walk off a short pier... or not. I don't care. Wanting to mend disputes between others
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Old Oct 02, 2006, 04:28 PM
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I think you are realizing good therapy stuff there bear! Yes, we can't make others jump ahead to where WE are on the path...but yes, we can educate and encourage them to work at becoming better.

It's when our happiness is contingent upon their success that we suffer.

Knowing where I stop and you begin is important for any relationship. Perhaps those who abuse never learned any boundaries?
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Old Oct 03, 2006, 08:10 AM
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"can take a long walk off a short pier,.... or not. I don't care"

That is about where I am at with some of my abusers Wanting to mend disputes between others

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Old Oct 03, 2006, 08:12 AM
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Thanks as always for your insightful reply! (((((((((((((( Sky ))))))))))))))
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Old Oct 03, 2006, 08:43 AM
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Old Oct 03, 2006, 08:43 AM
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Thank you hon...

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Old Oct 03, 2006, 10:58 AM
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First time I hear that! But I feel that way about some people too... it's just useless trying to argue with such close minded people. They refuse to try and see that there is more than just their own views and opnions!
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Old Oct 03, 2006, 12:15 PM
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Bingo, Tanya.... and people like that STINK!!!!!!!!!
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i am with ya!!!!
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Old Oct 03, 2006, 02:13 PM
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It's good to know I am not totally nuts!
(especially when some have tried to make me feel I am Wanting to mend disputes between others)

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