Considering IP again.

Teen Idle, glad you took the steps you needed to take and are feeling more stable now!

Hi Teen Idle, I read your original post and followed the replies and my heart goes out to you so much. I lost my brother in 2009 when he was 21 and I was 24. I was already married with 2 children at the time but I can still relate to you and what you are going through with your mom. I am sorry to share this but it is the truth: Your mom may likely NEVER be the same again. I had many issues with my mother before my brother/her son died, and they have become so complicated now and even snowballed to close to triple what they were beforehand. It will be 5 years in February since his death. I still grieve, but I am a LOT better and functional. I have however been forced to accept not only his death, but basically the death of my mom also. She changed in so many ways, our relationship will never be the same. I truly hope that your relationship with your Mom does not follow the same path as mine, but I do believe everything does happen for a reason. My sincere and deepest condolences to you Idle, from the Bustamante family to yours.