[wisewoman]

I was reading here somewhere that when something really bugs us badly that it could be an unresolved issue coming back and needing resolution. Okay, that may indeed be the issue. Last week a woman from a state agency having to do with the child we are adopting was downright cruel and abusive to my day care provider. I flipped a big one and it has upset me so much that I have cried and obsessed over it. Is it as simple as innocent people being hurt and my need to protect the innocent? Is it my indignant attitude toward professionals or people in power who abuse this power? I have been absolutely obsessed and it's been hard to let it go. Time to meditate on it I guess.

However, there is more. A grudge that this abusive woman is holding against me because we adopted one child from a sibling pair. We had good reasons, mainly that the older child was abusing the younger ones. But a grudge that old! Give me a break!!!!

[(JD)]

Sounds like a ptsd issue to me, yep. (((hugs)))

[Yoda]

That sounds like a really bad situation and I can't blame you for being upset/angry. I think what you should ask yourself is what you can do to change the situation. You (or maybe the day care provider) could file a complaint/greivance about her inappropriate behavior. It is hard to say for sure what to do (or what I would do) without knowing more about the situation. I have obsessed before and it helps me to write down on paper what my choices are to respond to the situation and then follow through and then try to let it be.

[wisewoman]

I wrote the supervisor and the provider has gotten her apology. I got an email back from the super asking that the daycare provider call if she had additional concerns. Sounds like I did what I could and it's over, except in my head. Sky, yes, PTSD, I have made this choice to stay out of the above situations due to the severe triggering and fear. I have to let go Yoda, all done. Thanks.