Heres something you can do to see how your self esteem looks. its a small test that asks 20 questions and gives you an overall evaluation. its just a bit of fun i suppose.

go to http://msntestyourself.netdoctor.co....selfesteem.php and take the test.

my score was as follows:

You have scored 48.

What your scoring means

Many people think you are confident and in charge of your life. You're not so sure! It may be that you had a difficult upbringing with parents who were too demanding of you. Or perhaps you have Always felt that you're not as bright as other people think you are. Or maybe you feel unlovable.

If you're in a relationship, it's likely that you'll Often feel anxious about it. Sometimes you may worry that you'll 'muck things up'. You may also have serious concerns that your partner will 'find you out' and decide you're not worth loving.

feel free to post your result here. mine is an accurate description of me i think. let me know what yours comes up as.

have fun

simon

[domino]

ok thanks Simon
I'll check out the link

[Bethsway]

Just from reading your posts...your score does sound alot like you...

I got 44 which says I do not like myself much at all...and yet nature has made me utterly unique and I have as much right on this planet and to do as well as anyone else...I have great personal skills but they do need bring out...

That sounds like me too...!!

It also goes on to say I should take some self-assertive classes and/or I would benefit from cognitive behavior therapy....maybe? who knows!!

I got a 40--no surprise there.--Suzy

[Christina86]

So the higher the score the better?

I guess that means trouble for me.

I got a 38.

[Perna]

You have scored 64.

"Good self-esteem on the whole. But you sometimes fail to believe in yourself enough. Remember you are a special and unique person. Many people in this category feel confident in what they do for a living and get a lot of affirmation from that. It's important, however, to feel good about who you ARE, not just about what you do. Have a think about this."

I like that expression, "have a think about . . . "

You have scored 46.

What your scoring means

Many people think you are confident and in charge of your life. You're not so sure! It may be that you had a difficult upbringing with parents who were too demanding of you. Or perhaps you have Always felt that you're not as bright as other people think you are. Or maybe you feel unlovable.

If you're in a relationship, it's likely that you'll Often feel anxious about it. Sometimes you may worry that you'll 'muck things up'. You may also have serious concerns that your partner will 'find you out' and decide you're not worth loving.

Have a look at the article called 'Self- esteem', which is on this website in the Sex and Relationships section. There are plenty of tips in there to help you. And if you do a bit of work on improving your self-esteem, you'll find that you have fewer worries and that life runs more smoothly.

[alibaby]

I got 39 with the same comments that Bethsway got. Right on the mark.

[BlueFaith]

You have scored 57.

What your scoring means

Good self-esteem on the whole. But you sometimes fail to believe in yourself enough. Remember you are a special and unique person. Many people in this category feel confident in what they do for a living and get a lot of affirmation from that. It's important, however, to feel good about who you ARE, not just about what you do. Have a think about this.

[jbug]

I got a 47 also. The comments it said are right on the money. On the outside I'm this big confident person but inside I'm a quivering pile of goo.

Jbug

[Rhapsody]

Hmm -

I did better than I thought...... it must the WOUNDS controling ME, but in reality I am STRONG!!

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How high is your self-esteem?

(You have scored 58)

What your scoring means

Good self-esteem on the whole. But you sometimes fail to believe in yourself enough. Remember you are a special and unique person. Many people in this category feel confident in what they do for a living and get a lot of affirmation from that. It's important, however, to feel good about who you ARE, not just about what you do. Have a think about this.

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FYI - - - - - - - - SeptemberMorn YOU were right, Thx -

[Numbers]

That was worse than I thought. Says I need counseling That I'm depressed. Hmm that's no good... I'm happy today.
Anyways I don't think the test is very accurate for me since I never been in a relationship. And it says I fail relationships.

[Beautiful_Pain]

You have scored 39

The chances are that you really don't like yourself much at all. And yet nature has made you utterly unique, and you have as much right to be on this planet and to do as well as anyone else. You have great personal qualities - believe me. But they do need bringing out.

Hmm, I don't know what to feel about that o.O

[arod13]

I got a 47 the comments were right on the money pretty interesting

[prodigiousgamer]

lol i got a 17

[SeptemberMorn]

You have scored 67.

What your scoring means

You have excellent self-esteem. You may well have had problems with valuing yourself in the past, but you have become a confident person with a proper appreciation of yourself. You are almost certainly someone who other people like and admire, and your belief in yourself helps you to make good friendships and relationships. However, your inner confidence also enables you to feel happy and relaxed when you are alone.

Oh, really???

[SeptemberMorn]

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What about, Rhapsody? LOL

[eskielover]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm I scored 59,

Looking at it, that is about right throughout my whole life....go figure. Very interesting site. Thanks for pointing it out.

Debbie

[Rio_]

The chances are that you really don't like yourself much at all. And yet nature has made you utterly unique, and you have as much right to be on this planet and to do as well as anyone else. You have great personal qualities - believe me. But they do need bringing out.

Have a look at the 'Self-esteem' article. It contains lots of advice which you may find helpful to adopt. Also have a look at the recommended books, which could change your whole life.

You'll also notice that I mention self-assertiveness classes. Joining one would help you to sound and look more confident - and that would encourage you to care more about yourself.

Most public libraries can tell you about such classes. Or you can ring the Further Education department at your council offices.

You would also benefit from some therapy. The treatment of choice for poor self-esteem is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). The chances are that you're not 'bad' enough to qualify for this under the NHS. But if you want to go the private route, contact the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies. For other forms of psychotherapy or counselling, contact the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

Oh dear.

[Rapunzel]

I scored 34.

What your scoring means

The chances are that you find life very difficult indeed. You may well have a number of failed relationships behind you. Perhaps you've had problems with anger, or jealousy that have caused a split with a partner. You may also have found that your working life has been extremely disappointing. But you can change things. Read the 'Self- esteem' article and try to do the exercises we recommend. If you do all of these, you'll begin to see yourself in a new light. It will also help you to read the books we've suggested.

You will certainly benefit from some form of counselling. And it's worth trying to get this on the NHS. So ask your GP if he or she can refer you for some professional help.

Finally, many people with this kind of score are actually seriously depressed. Do you think this could apply to you? If you think it might, please discuss this with your doctor as treatments and help are available.


I knew that my self-esteem was non-existant. Extremely disappointing working life is right on.

Rap

[bflatgary]

I scored 64. This pretty well fits where I am now. A year and a half ago I would probably have gotten a much lower score.

Self-esteem is a continual battle. I have been up and down the pole on this many times. I read a lot of self-improvement articles and books, and they always remind me that we do have some control over self-esteem. You cannot feel good about yourself without personal effort. Same thing with happiness. Like the last line in the "Desiderata" says, "Strive to be happy". Not as easy as it sounds.

<<<Good self-esteem on the whole. But you sometimes fail to believe in yourself enough. Remember you are a special and unique person. Many people in this category feel confident in what they do for a living and get a lot of affirmation from that. It's important, however, to feel good about who you ARE, not just about what you do. Have a think about this.>>>

GW

[mrb020377]

You have scored 66.

What your scoring means

You have excellent self-esteem. You may well have had problems with valuing yourself in the past, but you have become a confident person with a proper appreciation of yourself. You are almost certainly someone who other people like and admire, and your belief in yourself helps you to make good friendships and relationships. However, your inner confidence also enables you to feel happy and relaxed when you are alone.

hmmm not sure about all of this...... i am not relaxed when i am alone... in fact i am fearful when i am alone...( being alone as a child was when the bad things happened)

i will have to think on this for a while

[prettyjolie]

You have scored 43.

What your scoring means

The chances are that you really don't like yourself much at all. And yet nature has made you utterly unique, and you have as much right to be on this planet and to do as well as anyone else. You have great personal qualities - believe me. But they do need bringing out.

Have a look at the 'Self-esteem' article. It contains lots of advice which you may find helpful to adopt. Also have a look at the recommended books, which could change your whole life.

You'll also notice that I mention self-assertiveness classes. Joining one would help you to sound and look more confident - and that would encourage you to care more about yourself.

Most public libraries can tell you about such classes. Or you can ring the Further Education department at your council offices.

You would also benefit from some therapy. The treatment of choice for poor self-esteem is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). The chances are that you're not 'bad' enough to qualify for this under the NHS. But if you want to go the private route, contact the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies. For other forms of psychotherapy or counselling, contact the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

.. I'm not surprised.

[froggie2]

Interesting Simon. 65 for me. But I am sure it swings depending on my mood.

[domino]

finally got round to doing the test. I got 48. The conclusion is very real of the way I feel which is the following.

Many people think you are confident and in charge of your life. You're not so sure! It may be that you had a difficult upbringing with parents who were too demanding of you. Or perhaps you have Always felt that you're not as bright as other people think you are. Or maybe you feel unlovable.

If you're in a relationship, it's likely that you'll Often feel anxious about it. Sometimes you may worry that you'll 'muck things up'. You may also have serious concerns that your partner will 'find you out' and decide you're not worth loving.