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Originally Posted by Ihani
I've had a problem from years where I will get irrationally angry over noises. My biggest one is when people chomp and smack their lips. That is utterly agonizing for me. I often have to move and cover my ears to keep from hitting them or stabbing them with a utensil of some sort. Once I had to sit by a kid in church who chomped his gum for an hour, and I got so enraged I kind of lost grip of reality and started crying and felt like nothing was real. My sister smacks her lips ALL THE TIME, and I often glare at her or record her eating to show how disruptive she is until my parents yell at me for it.
Other than that, hearing people breath also makes me really angry. My dad breathes really loud, and I've often had the urge to hit him for it. In addition, hearing people type on keyboards when nobody else is or when I'm focusing on something makes me lose all focus and sometimes so mad that I start crying and hitting my desk (etc).
Kissing also bothers me. My parents think it's funny to kiss in front of me to make me uncomfortable, but they don't realize when they do that it makes me livid. The other day they did it, and my fists balled up and my vision and breathing got shaky and I wanted to run to the kitchen and grab a knife but fortunately they stopped. Unfortunately, they yelled at me when I asked them to stop doing that, telling me to get over it.
The only other noise I can remember at the moment is the sound of grinding teeth. My sister grinds her teeth at night, and I used to have to share a bed with her a lot, and she usually would wake me up because she would grind so loud. I retaliated by yelling at her and there were a few instances where I hit her so hard I woke her up. I always felt really bad because I would smack her chest and it would scare her, but it was driving me insane.
So, is this something I should be checking out or not? Thanks for your feedback!
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Yes, something to be checked out. Taps into a feeling of dismissiveness of your own wants and desires from your family of origin. Parents, whilst dealing with you, for your reaction, also must address the antagonistic behavior of your sister. For instance, my middle son will chomp loudly, my oldest reacts in an over reactive manner. I will address both his overreaction and ask middle son to stop antagonizing oldest, as it's disrespectful, and bordering bullying behavior. I also, remind oldest, that if he's overreacting instead of approaching his brother or me, to stop said behavior, then instead of the focus being on the loud chewing, the focus then turns on his erratic, angry outburst, which leaves him feeling like he's the only one in trouble, which I reinforce is not the case, just his emotive state leaves him not recognizing this fact.
Your family is glaringly on your last nerve, and now you are violently triggered, perhaps from the anger of not feeling heard, understood nor acknowledged.
Apr 27, 2014, 02:56 PM
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