[howamisupposetoknow]

Hello everyone I thought this place would be the best place to write it. I'll keep It short.
I tend to see people's flaws, I get angry very easily, for example if someone argues with me I get upset because I know im right. I cant stand mistakes and weakness.
I dont know If im a perfectionist but I always care about what I do and if someone doesnt care, I get upset. Im kinda pessimist. Thats all I can tell for now. thank you

[Blue_Bird]

Nobody here can diagnose you, but you can learn coping skills here to help manage bothersome traits

[BeaFlower]

First of all welcome I don't know if it can be considered a disorder, bit if it causes you problems, for example in the relationships, it would be worth asking a help. You could see a psychologist or counselor and talk about it. Wish you all the best

[sideblinded]

howamisupposetoknow, Hello and welcome to PC.

Thanks for telling us a little about yourself. We have a personality forum that you may want to browse. I really can't say whether you have a disorder.

Personality Place - Forums at Psych Central

This forum may also be helpful.

Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central

Others here will want to offer you some feedback.

Best wishes here at PC.

[kaliope]

hi howamisupposedtoknow
i feel the same way sometimes about people not caring. i have to realize that that is my own thinking and learn not to say what i am thinking. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[kindoflost]

I would not prefer "diagnosing", but because I have the same issues, I can reply what are the underlying issues. I mean, why would writing the truth kills? What people write in their suggestions is most of the times inacurate, anyway. Speaking the truth may even produce good results with motivating someone to pursue the long term therapy.

So,

I tend to see people's flaws

That's because you feel worthless deep inside yourself. And you feel worthless because of some other reasons before that. But because somewhere long ago, you already knew this is a terrible way to feel, you had 2 options to choose from: first is, not feeling so by thinking others are worth less, OR, thinking I'm worth less then others so you wouldn't have to feel worthless because you already know you are worth less then others. Well, same as me, you choosed the first tactic. Which tactic you choose basicly depends on what you lean from how people communicate at home - but it doesn't matther - even if they are bashing others and that is the reason why you learn it, don't blame them because of the tactic you chosen - you could have chosen the second one, and it will be the same. Neither works in the long run, anyway.

I get angry very easily, for example if someone argues with me I get upset because I know im right. I cant stand mistakes and weakness.

The reasons for this are basicly the same. You want to feel superior to hold on to your fake image.

You must know, though, this image of fakness can be dissarmed by feeling what should be felt (the original pain you felt before you chosed tactics).

[howamisupposetoknow]

Thank you all i'm glad there are people who understands me

[kindoflost]

You're welcome. I hope you find proper help in the future and we all get well and a chance to enjoy present moment without thinking too much of unnecesery things.

Be fine.