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Jan 04, 2014, 01:14 PM
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I have an attachment issue... I'm hopelessly besotted by a person and everything I do or feel depends on this person. I know it's not healthy but I don't know what to do about it. I understand that it is a mother figure I see in her (I'm a girl too)because my mum was very bad to me and I don't speak to her. She has cared for me so much and done so much for me at a really low point in my life but I just really need to get this off my chest it tears my apart some days, it's heartbreaking. This has happened before though as soon as someone shows me any attention. How can I stop feeling SO much cos I realize I need to be my own person but I never have been and I'm certainly not now because of her. I don't think she knows how I feel but I tell her lovely things and do lots of things for her and tell her that I think she's beautiful. Is there even a chance that she KNOWS?? She knows all about my problems and stuff so maybe she's already figured out how I feel? But I have never ever made a move on her I cant, she's straight, and older than me, I'm 25 she's 41. Yes I know I realize this is just some kind of fairytale fantasy thing and now I've begun rambling so I'm sorry about that. I'm just happy for anyone to reply anything with any comments or thoughts on this. Most of all I just felt I needed to say it 'out loud' kinda...though it's scary. Cos I'd much rather have her as a friend forever than anything else.
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Jan 04, 2014, 01:20 PM
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 That is such a fantastic and descriptive word, besotted. You have of course answered yourself with your realization that this friendship is the most important thing, and you wouldn't jeopardize it. You are so very lucky to have such a friend in your life & I bet your friend feels just as happy you are in her life too. Enjoy it. Be grateful. It is a special thing you have. Treasure it with all your might. I am so happy you recognize this gift in your life.  Best of everything to you!
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Jan 04, 2014, 01:23 PM
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Thank you so much NWgirl2013!!
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Jan 05, 2014, 12:38 AM
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serenity, I think a lot of people go through some type of emotional attachment like you are having now--it varies in the degree and depth of it. Right now, I have a person I'm overly attached to but I'm in the process of letting go of my obsessive thoughts about him. I miss him, but it's better for me to start paying attention to others and living a free life. But, you don't have to give up your friendship with this woman entirely--just let loose a little so you can live in a bigger world--a world with many other people.....D.
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