Sarcasm and me?

so I never was aware of this but apparently when I went to see a psychologist when I was younger...he told my mother...flat out...I would never understand sarcasm at all...and it was pointless to even try doing so around me

the same has pretty much stayed true since then...I just never have gotten it and end up taking things that people say sarcastically personally or far too much to heart.

I am wondering is this common or uncommon does anyone else struggle with this like I do?

Can be part of autism or aspergers to not be able to pick up on social cues or others feelings and take things literally but that's not on your list above.

Hi, yes that can be a big one with autism or Aspergers, but have a think as well about the situations it's happened in, or more so happens in.
For example have you missed it when it's coming from someone who doesn't use it much, or someone you'd have no reason at all to doubt/even someone really credible?, If it's coming across as quite negative have you got that kind of negative outlook sometimes? If it's not that complementary about you have you got a few problems with self esteem/confidence? Is straightforward "tell it as it is" one of your own character traits or something you expect from other people so maybe that's throwing you?
It could help breaking it down a little to help you identify some things that could help you pick up on it, or address anything underlying?
With any friends though just make sure you're being direct in explaining this about yourself, if they're real friends they're going to respect that and make things less confusing (?).
Alison

I guess its difficult for me cause like I said my mother took to me a phycologist when I was younger and he worked with me..but a lot of the information he gathered from my work with him...was told to my mother and my family and not really me....

maybe I was just so young I did not remember it but.....I am hearing things about my past that I wish I had heard a long time ago....

no I don't seem to connect with the ques of someone...joking around or using sarcasm in any situation most my friends act like that with each other all the time....and then when they try to be the same way with me I will either have blank stare on my face or I will get frustrated at the behavior.

which in turn just pisses them off as well.

Hi Kala, well I'd say that that's your friends problem, not yours if it pisses them off. If you've explained clearly to them (and I'd do it individually) and they don't "get it" then they're really not that great are they?
There can be SO much more to friendships than understanding/or not understanding sarcasm, so if there's not as much else there to compensate for the rest then I'd say that they aren't that significant in your life, do you think?? Maybe time to try expanding your "social circle"/friendships?? Now that may be difficult, but maybe just start a little casually/at your own pace??
And IT MAY NOT BE but perhaps look into the signs of Asperger's/autism, perhaps talk about it with a professional even. I'm seriously not looking into adding somethimg to your "conditions" but with ALL the information it may even be that something else has been misdiagnosed.
And just a slight caution, while professional information about how you were when you where younger is vital, it does have it's place as well. Circumstances may have been different for you then, different professionals may read things differently, things can occassionally change as you grow up..............just throw everything in when you see whatever professional it is you're seeing next , make sure they know as much as possible and go from there.
Alison

Before just connecting this with Asperger's and autism I'd like to say that everyone is just not able to do some stuff that is seen as normal, but still they don't fall into a diagnosis. Sometimes we're simply not good at everything and it is quite human.

I do have Asperger's and just like most of my aspie friends I tend to overuse sarcasm. Its just my observation that most aspies actually do get sarcasm quite well. I'm starting to think this is some kind of myth. Sarcasm sort of fits into language and language patten rather than expression, and oftentimes aspies have no issue with language.

wither I have it or not I might do some research on the topic cause I might find a way to help myself with this kind of issue to some degree
it could be possible that I might have this kind of thing....I am un sure.....back when i was younger Autism and all that was not really as well known....as what is now...just like ADD now that i am going to see people at my current age i am still kind of playing a guessing game with my own personal psychology but I am trying to do what I can to help myself in general....I just happen to be a very analytical person and I tend to try to take things apart.....to figure the out.