[wisewoman]

I inadvertantly foundoutthatmy 19 year old daughter through adoption, the onewith abusive boyfriend...... At least believes that she is pregnant. Ifeelhitby a truck and can't even breathe. Another child brought into this mess? She hasn'tlearnedanything from her lifewith usand that childwouldbe doomed. Sorry, space bar badand noenergy.

[froggie2]

Sorry to hear you are so overwhelmed right now.((((((wisewoman)))))))

[wisewoman]

I am so creeped out about a baby being brought into this situation that I can't even sit with it. Generation after generation of abuse and neglect. I want to scream, it would scare the dogs. I want to cry. I can't try to get arrangements made for my 6 year old if I am crying. It is just mind boggling.

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{WW}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} BREATH, girl... BREATH!! IF... and I say IF she's pregnant, nothing says she's going to marry this b/f and nothing says she has to keep the baby!

There's NOTHING you can do now anyway. BREATH! Relax and take care of the things you CAN do NOW.

[Boopers]

I'm sorry this has happened. I understand your concerns but maybe she will decide to get rid of her BF. It would be alot better for her, if she did.
Try not to stress too much. I know it's hard but you have your six year old to worry about right now.
Linda

[wisewoman]

Hey Tommi,thanks.It'sall too weird. I finally found the boy friend's number through family court from the relief from abuse order and called her and told her what was going on and she seemed surprised. She said she is not pregnant but whenI asked her if they did a urine sample she said yes. However, the person I spoke with on the phone specifically said that she had asked if she could still have the surgery if she were pregnant and my daughter sounded very surprised about this. Let'shopeit's a mixup. I have thoughts in my head about NOT wanting her to bring another child into this world to have this life and they are evil. I wish for peace with this. Children are sacred creatures and deserve to be treated as such. A gift from god.the great spirit, whatever. Thanks.

[SeptemberMorn]

Yes, children are a gift from God and should be treated as such. Sadly, not too many people believe this way. In the meantime, till you find out for sure what is happening, try to remain calm so that you can think straight... and take care of that little one in your care.

[Sarah116]

Sept. you are so right!
Also... people should not even try to get pregnant unless they can take care of the child and actually are desperate with desire for one. (((WiseWoman))) sorry that your Daughter can't understand that or does not want to!

[wisewoman]

Well, she swears she is not and we are going for a pre-op and pregnancy test at 2:00. The surgeon's office called and said that she had told them she was pregnant and could she still have the surgery. Well, we know that part didn't happen but maybe the p test showed something interesting. Or, they got their patient's confused in which case do I want them operating on my daughter? SCAREY!

[wisewoman]

Well, a lesson not to panic here. Transcriptionist made large boo boo. Kid went to reg doc for pre-op today and a pregnancy testand she is FINE. The senseless worry. I wouldlike to see this transcriptionist personally andexplain the pain she has caused.

[Wants2Fly]

So glad things worked out. I could feel my panic rising just reading this thread. Hugs from an old friend long mia.

[LMo]

Wisewoman, I'm glad that she's not pregnant, but one part stood out from your original post, about "She hasn'tlearned anything from her life with us". Just because someone accidentally gets pregnant, it could have been just that -- an accident. Even with the best precautions, pregnancies sometimes do happen and PLEASE don't beat yourself up. I know that you did the best you could to teach her solid life skills. It would not have been your fault, ok?

[wisewoman]

Thanks,I was realy working hard on how to still support and embrace her believing she was pregnant. I do that I felt lied to as she said she has no interest in having a child at this time. Poor kid was mad at them too. Anyway, you are of course right.Pregnancy happens. I hope I won't be dealing with that for a while.