[Rayne Selene]

Hello,
I'm having major problems with my younger sister and I don't know what to do anymore. She's thirteen, I'm twenty, and I still live at home while going to school. Just a brief history: My sister is younger, but much larger. She's had obesity problems since she was little, while I'm very petite. This has caused a lot of jealousy problems. Our parents got divorced about eighteen months ago, and it's been very difficult. My sister had a hard time because the courts made her live with our dad part time and my mom just got full custody of her.
Anyways, my sister has been showing some very strange behavior. Over the past year, she has been consistently stealing my things. I know that's normal for younger siblings, but it's getting worse, to the point that she steals things she doesn't need, like my underwear; I'm half her size. I walked into my room last week and saw that all my bedroom pillows had been slashed open, like with a knife. She's also very volatile and blows up over small issues. She can't keep herself or her bedroom clean. She has had a bed-wetting problem for her entire life, and she hides the used pull-ups under her bed. The odor is insane. She also eats constantly when no one else is here; she goes so far as to steal the chocolates my fiancé bought for my anniversary that are hidden in my room and eat every single one. Last night she told my mother that she hates me, wished that I would die, and that I'm the source of all her problems. My mother explained that I've been having problems with Bipolar Disorder and she says "Good, she'll probably commit suicide then." At this point, ever time she walks past me, she says something like "I hate you" or "B***".
I don't know what to do. I've tried talking with her, spending time with her, etc, and nothing helps. Her therapist suggested that my sister may be suffering from PTSD from events that occurred while spending time with my dad. I'm worried about her and about our relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Stronger]

Oh my goodness! I'm sorry
Your t is most likely right about her suffering from some PTSD symptoms.
Also, sometimes when you're 13 you tend to think things like: the world is out to get you, so unless you act like a complete jerk to everyone around you, especially those close to you, then you will get run over by everyone and everything.
But still, that doesn't make it ok for her to treat you like that.
Maybe it might be best to give her some space for a little bit. Or you could write her a note and leave it in her room.
No matter what you do, it's going to take time.
I hope it's just a phase that she'll grow out of soon though. My sisters mean the world to me now, but it didn't use to be that way.

[akarro123]

Originally Posted by Rayne Selene

Hello,
I'm having major problems with my younger sister and I don't know what to do anymore. She's thirteen, I'm twenty, and I still live at home while going to school. Just a brief history: My sister is younger, but much larger. She's had obesity problems since she was little, while I'm very petite. This has caused a lot of jealousy problems. Our parents got divorced about eighteen months ago, and it's been very difficult. My sister had a hard time because the courts made her live with our dad part time and my mom just got full custody of her.
Anyways, my sister has been showing some very strange behavior. Over the past year, she has been consistently stealing my things. I know that's normal for younger siblings, but it's getting worse, to the point that she steals things she doesn't need, like my underwear; I'm half her size. I walked into my room last week and saw that all my bedroom pillows had been slashed open, like with a knife. She's also very volatile and blows up over small issues. She can't keep herself or her bedroom clean. She has had a bed-wetting problem for her entire life, and she hides the used pull-ups under her bed. The odor is insane. She also eats constantly when no one else is here; she goes so far as to steal the chocolates my fiancé bought for my anniversary that are hidden in my room and eat every single one. Last night she told my mother that she hates me, wished that I would die, and that I'm the source of all her problems. My mother explained that I've been having problems with Bipolar Disorder and she says "Good, she'll probably commit suicide then." At this point, ever time she walks past me, she says something like "I hate you" or "B***".
I don't know what to do. I've tried talking with her, spending time with her, etc, and nothing helps. Her therapist suggested that my sister may be suffering from PTSD from events that occurred while spending time with my dad. I'm worried about her and about our relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hey, I'm Anna. Now, first off, I'm confused: who has bipolar? Also, what events happened regarding your dad and sister?

[Rayne Selene]

Originally Posted by akarro123

Hey, I'm Anna. Now, first off, I'm confused: who has bipolar? Also, what events happened regarding your dad and sister?

I have bipolar. Basically my dad is an alcoholic who is extremely violent when he's drunk. We don't know the extent of what happened, but one night he drove with her, drunk, across town, ditched her alone at our house (we weren't here) and sped off. We came home to find her crying on the doorstep.