[kimmydawn]

From time to time there will be conflicts between members of our community. We're a large, diverse community and it is inevitible.

At times, conflicts can be resolved; other times not. There might be a number of reasons that it doesn't/can't resolve immediately. The conflict may resolve at a later date, or may never resolve. We're not going to be able to tolerate every member at all times.

Members involved in a conflict are asked that it not be brought out onto the public boards due to the potential for having feelings of being flamed, etc.

It does not help the members involved, in attempting to move forward, for other members to go on discussing the situation or bringing it to the public forums. In fact, in my viewing of past history, it hinders healing and resolve. Further, discussions such as these can be disruptive to the entire community due to the high emotion based on care.

If you know someone involved in a conflict, and they're trying to manage it with the best tools that they have available in a private manner, allow that please. Allow them to do what they feel they need to in order to enjoy PC for their wants and needs while managing the conflict to the best of their abilities or as has been directed.

Other than supportive hugs, etc., (the obviously supportive) our fellow members shouldn't be discussed on the public forums. I can't imagine it aids in the healing process or in the resolution of conflict. More detailed private discussions can certainly be had, but need to take place via PM or email.

We can support those we care about by helping them to move forward during difficult times. Let's support our fellow members...all of them...even if it's saying nothing because we might not feel we have anything good to say in the moment.

Due to the potential for upset to the members involved, as well as the potential for community-wide involvement and upset when bringing the personal public, I will remove any posts that discuss another's personal issues here and the member(s) will be PM'ed.

Again, due to the potential of negative feelings, personal issues with, or about, other members need to remain off the public forums to allow for healing (in whatever form that takes) as quickly as can be managed.

KD

kim....i do understand what you are saying and why but there are exceptions to every rule.....the current matter under discussion involved too many people for it to remain private.......

[kimmydawn]

I understand that, butterflylady. I understand at times that conflicts can feel huge.

As I explained, it can be discussed just not on the public boards. It can be discussed in PM, email, or something of that nature.

However, in helping the members involved as well as the other members not involved, it needs to remain off the public forums.

KD

[SeptemberMorn]

IMHO, I feel that sides have been taken and it's also obvious who is "working behind the scenes." I happen to love and support both parties but I'm being put in a very difficult situation here because of the "sides" being drawn. I am NOT on one side or the other but just admitting it could hurt one or the other.

It is VERY UNFAIR for ALL parties concerned!!

ok kim..i will abide by your wishes and the rules of the forums but i still believe that the majority of folks involved thought they were doing a good thing.....end of subject for me...thanks for listening

[kimmydawn]

Thank you!

I have no doubt regarding the wonderful intent most of the time...none.

I also know that, historically, it's a rough road to go down for the community as a whole.

I'm going to go ahead and lock this thread due to some of the reasons mentioned in my initial post. I wanted to state my awareness, as well as my requests.

Thank you!

KD

[DocJohn]

I will reinforce what KD has said here.

We will be growing very much this year as more and more people join our community to access various services offered by Psych Central and to gain support for an issue they are dealing with in their lives.

I will not have interpersonal arguments between two members cast a pall on our supportive environment here. Individual arguments between two members should be kept between the two people privately and others should not get involved. Nor should the two members who dislike each other involve others.

Use the ignore tool, that's why it's there. If two members refuse to use the tools available to them and continue to make subtle references to the other, they will be suspended.

Thank you,
DocJohn