What personality disorder is this similar to?

People do narcissistic things all the time, but IMO I think you have to have a lot of other stuff going on to be labeled as a true narcissist. Your friend may be, but I don't know anything else about her so it's hard to tell from what you've posted here.

I have one friend who told me she was diagnosed with narcissistic PD and I can believe it. She has very few friends that have lasted for more than a few years at a time. Her older friends (like me) care for her but find her unbearable to be around. I see her socially about once a year. I have another friend who is narcissistic, but has so many good traits that I overlook (and tease him about) the self centered stuff and can see him frequently. He has many many friends because aside from his self centered traits, there is a side to him that is so caring and very genuine.

So I think it depends on your overall relationship. If she has a lot of good qualities that make up for this flaw, I'd probably accept her for who she is but have other friends to rely on for certain things. If you have other problems with her, then that's a different story. The only time I'd bring it up is if her lack of follow through negatively affects you beyond disappointing you. Not calling when she says she will if it's just to chat is one thing. But if she's supposed to call you to make plans but never does, leaving you hanging, then I would confront her about it.

You're very welcome. Unfortunately, I have had too much experience with passive-aggressive people, so am quite familiar with the behavior.

Sorry to hear this sister
Lauliza, this woman is also incredibly self centrered, inconsiderate and insincere. She never thinks of my feelings. She can be funny and sweet but generally I have come to really dislike her. Thing is, from what I have seen, she only treats me this way and nobody else. She is very sweet to everyone else so I don't get why it is just me. Having said that I know from a source her family members have disowned her so maybe more is going on then I am aware...

Sister Rags, I wonder if my picture is next to the definition. . . One of my (vague) therapy goals is to learn to say no without feeling guilty. Thanks for the article!

Thank you for clarifying your relationship with her more. Definitely sounds, if anything, like a terrible friend. If she appears to only treat you this way but has been disowned by family you might be right, there's probably more going on here. I wonder if she a great manipulator?

You're welcome, and kudos to you for recognizing your issues and choosing to work on them.

Ooh yes, definitely a manipulator.