[Beachlover527]

Hello. I am a freshman in college. I started procrastinating I think in freshman year of high school but it wasn't that bad. I still got my work done. By junior year, I stopped caring about things. I have to say I am studious and a good student but I just stopped caring about doing schoolwork and would try to get it done the class period before or early in the morning before school. Did I complete all my assignments by doing this? No. Idk why I am careless about my grades, my future. I am not sure if this is just because I'm lazy and there's more fun things to do (computer) or if there is something wrong deep down... I have been a fantastic student since elementary and I think freshman year too. Also I hung out with this girl who was just more focused on fun than hw. But I don't know if a person can impact another person like that so much.
I am a freshman in college now and I still don't like doing my work. It's gotten so bad that I don't even do it. I try to get it done in the mornings and sometimes I finish but I would rather do fun games or stray away from anything that has to do with homework.
I think it's a serious problem but I feel like I don't have enough motivation, enough care, to do anything about it.
I have written on my whiteboard like Please get it done. You'll feel so much better being on top of your tasks. But it still hasn't helped. It helped a little. I just don't like doing the work and I guess I don't see how detrimental it can be. Maybe I feel like I can be successful even though I don't do my assignments. I dunno. Please help.

[Ripose]

Is there a chance that you feel that you don't deserve to be successful? That you are lacking confidence? Or perhaps you are studying material that is just plain boring. Also some people don't acquire the discipline to maintain good study habits until later in life. Lastly does getting a poor grade cause you to lose focus or does it increase your resolve to improve?

I barely finished high school because of the above problems but when I returned to school (college) a few years later I discovered that much had changed and it all boiled down to my attitudes improving. I still have a problem seeing the long term benefits of anything so I take on-line courses one at a time, which are small enough goals that I easily achieve them.

Having friends who would rather party will definitely have an effect on you unless you can place schoolwork above short term pleasure

[Beachlover527]

Originally Posted by Ripose

Is there a chance that you feel that you don't deserve to be successful? That you are lacking confidence? Or perhaps you are studying material that is just plain boring. Also some people don't acquire the discipline to maintain good study habits until later in life. Lastly does getting a poor grade cause you to lose focus or does it increase your resolve to improve?

I barely finished high school because of the above problems but when I returned to school (college) a few years later I discovered that much had changed and it all boiled down to my attitudes improving. I still have a problem seeing the long term benefits of anything so I take on-line courses one at a time, which are small enough goals that I easily achieve them.

Having friends who would rather party will definitely have an effect on you unless you can place schoolwork above short term pleasure

Definitely. I don't see myself as someone who is wonderful. Who is studious. Who is smart. Who deserves to have a good easy organized life.
Why? (Thank you so much for bringing that up because you just helped me see that I do feel this way about myself.)
The poor grade is kind of neutral to me. It hurts me but I basically pretend that it doesn't affect me in any way. I still don't study MORE. I guess I lose focus.(Thanks you helped me again.) I wonder if me losing confidence had to do with me suddenly getting the grades I did not expect constantly and having that completely ruin me. I remember!! I took an AP world class sophomore year and now I get it. It was challenging for me and completely destroyed my confidence. Everyone in the class seemed to get good grades while I couldn't. I started to believe I was not smart enough. Now I see it. Maybe this happened in my Non AP classes too which is why I started to not care about my grades anymore.
I barely graduated actually because I had to remake an F I got in AP US history (this class brought my confidence down too) and I procrastinated on the assignment to remake the F. I got my final passing grade the day before graduation ... Lol.

I definitely also see short term pleasure being greater than homework.

I think another thing is that I am Asian and I think I was a little bit angry about the stereotypes about us always getting good grades and being the best in class that I felt kinda ashamed to be that. ( Wow this is deep.) also I was called uptight before and I think I really wanted to change and after many years I eventually became a non academic person.