[rave]

Ok, I have a question. So I've never been a touchy feely person, but for a little while now I really haven't liked when my family touches me or shows me affection. From hugs, to kisses, to putting lotion on my sunburn, even just a hand on my arm. It makes me feel so awful and uncomfortable.
I don't know, is this normal or whatever? Is there a reason? Just wanted to hear any opinions.

[Ripose]

I think this quite normal even if no mental illness is involved, unless it develops into a complete aversion against being touched.
I don't like being hugged either but the normal touching that is involved when interacting with other people does not bother me much.
Hugging just seems so hypocritical to me, it is the same as asking "How are you?" and not expecting or even wanting to hear the truth.

[the sad queen]

As long as it doesn't get worse to real disorder then its fine.

I sometimes have same problem, it just seem weird when someone hug me or touch me and I lack giving a real feeling back sometimes my expression doesn't help or I don't feel it, except with my family I don't mind or have any problem.

[marmaduke]

Originally Posted by rave

Ok, I have a question. So I've never been a touchy feely person, but for a little while now I really haven't liked when my family touches me or shows me affection. From hugs, to kisses, to putting lotion on my sunburn, even just a hand on my arm. It makes me feel so awful and uncomfortable.
I don't know, is this normal or whatever? Is there a reason? Just wanted to hear any opinions.

The reason? Maybe you dont really like the 'family'

My mothers touch made me cringe.

[Perna]

I think it can be harder if we are not use to being touched affectionately. It can feel like an invasion of space or like we are supposed to reciprocate in some way and we can't think how. I feel a little better if I can appreciate the lotion being put on my sunburn (or the hair stylist washing/massaging my hair/head) and look for a fond memory of the person touching me.

[Webgoji]

Originally Posted by rave

Ok, I have a question. So I've never been a touchy feely person, but for a little while now I really haven't liked when my family touches me or shows me affection. From hugs, to kisses, to putting lotion on my sunburn, even just a hand on my arm. It makes me feel so awful and uncomfortable.
I don't know, is this normal or whatever? Is there a reason? Just wanted to hear any opinions.

My wife really doesn't like being touched. Her dislike of physical contact is likely related to her PTSD from a rape in the past. She likes to keep me at an arms distance; just close enough to know I'm there, but not too close.

So maybe there is something in your past or your relationship with your family that's lead to it?

[Nicky123]

I hate being touched and it makes me very uncomfortable. I hate hug,s tho improving at giving and receiving them. Hate sitting close to anyone and end up totally scrunched up and muscles in knots.

[rave]

Thank you for all your guy's input! I started talking to my t about it. Something seems to be coming of it. Thanks again!

[mattjstead]

I feel the same way. I'm touchy feely with other but I don't like when others do the same to me. Doesn't make sense but just how I've always been.

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[rave]

Yeah that's me too, mattjstead. Glad I'm not the only one.