[phantom13]

My life hasn't been the best for a while now, im 17 and have some issues with life. To start I've got low self esteem as i have gyneacomastia (man boobs), but since im into bodybuilding it kills me to see that my bodies starting to look good except my chest, i cant wear tshirts and it rules my life. I plan on getting surgery in the relative future to get rid of this issue. Now i also have keratosis pilaris rubra faceii which is science talk to red cheeks, and im fairly white. This is an issue ive kinda learned to cope with but also absolutely hate it. Thats about it for personal/self esteem issues. The next issue is my home life. My dad's always been this very controlling asshole. A very aggressive guy towards me and my half sister. Me and the people who know him think he has a mental disorder. For all of my life hes been strict as hell and treated me like id imagine a kid who was in and out of jail would be treated. One example is I would received these typed up life outlines. Stuff like bed by 1030, no friends on school nights, all of this over the top stuff. I took the blame for some kid in class and he made me stand in front of thr class and apologize, i held out for 6 months before finally giving in as getting my phone back was more important. My mom on the other hand works a bunch and complains a LOT. She can be very dramatic and irritating, and always gives me crap about something. I don't like school but im not an unpopular dude, i can get along with almost anyone. My life plans are to start one company and then expand till i can start another etc. That and trading stocks. Im pretty confident in myself, there isnt really anything i domt think i can do. I don't plan on going to college(yeah yeah i know "omg your gonna work at mcdonalds the rest of your life" ill take my chances on the road less traveled"). My goal was to buy an 05 mustang / mustang gt, but recently while borrowing my uncles old truck i got in an accident with it (driving on a wet road, hit gas instead of brake after i lost control, took oout a streetlight). this incident basically killed my mustang goal in the near future as i gotta buy it off him and pay to get it to pass inspection. Im here today because I realized something, nothings tying me down to where im at, what if i just up and left? Headed for the west coast and a new life. Ive always debated it but now i finally have a car and could carry out with this. Thoughts?

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[Tauren]

First, finish high school.

Second, don't go anywhere until you're 18, because if your dad is really that controlling, he will be legally able to make you come back if you're only 17.

After that, sure, why not? If you're going to do something like that, do it while you're young. In 20 years you'll regret the things you didn't try, not the things you did. Trust me, I'm 48.

[Rose76]

Your dad does sound like a tool. I concur with the advice above to finish high school. College is not the only way to build a life. But you will need training for some kind of work. Some jobs train you as you go along. I'm a huge fan of community colleges and vocational technical schools that are public. (The private ones cost a fortune.)

Once you can support yourself, your problems with your parents will be 90% alleviated. Aim at that. Being good at getting along with people is a huge asset. Employers value that above a lot of other things. Try to get a part time job now, even if it's only two days a week.

[profound_betrayal]

Originally Posted by Tauren

First, finish high school.

Second, don't go anywhere until you're 18, because if your dad is really that controlling, he will be legally able to make you come back if you're only 17.

After that, sure, why not? If you're going to do something like that, do it while you're young. In 20 years you'll regret the things you didn't try, not the things you did. Trust me, I'm 48.

DITTO !!

[profound_betrayal]

phantom,

[B]You have GOALS, self confidence, know what you want (!!), get along with others[/B] & that's something!
On the flip side, you've identified self esteem as an area that needs attention, so you are aware of your strengths & weakness. Kudos to you!!! You have MOREe going for you than many with self esteem problems.

Tauren is right, wait until you're 18. if you can ..
That will even give you a little more time to plan! If (??!) you can work part-time, start to save a little from now (if possible). Living on your own in large cities can be brutal for the 'unprepared' & there are so many predators looking at 'profile minors' like yourself (unhappy w/problems at home, issues w/ parents).

Learn what you can, & PREPARE from now. The year will fly! But from your post, you will be fine!!
Good luck to you phantom!

[possum220]

Do you have any knowledge about the "Stock Market". Given that the stock market can be very volatile do you have any experience in this area. If not me thinks it would be a prudent move to to get some experience. Be mentored by some-one who knows what they are doing.

[phantom13]

Originally Posted by possum220

Do you have any knowledge about the "Stock Market". Given that the stock market can be very volatile do you have any experience in this area. If not me thinks it would be a prudent move to to get some experience. Be mentored by some-one who knows what they are doing.

slowly starting to educate myself, and id look to profit off the volatility with pump and dumps and what not.

[phantom13]

Originally Posted by Rose76

Your dad does sound like a tool. I concur with the advice above to finish high school. College is not the only way to build a life. But you will need training for some kind of work. Some jobs train you as you go along. I'm a huge fan of community colleges and vocational technical schools that are public. (The private ones cost a fortune.)

Once you can support yourself, your problems with your parents will be 90% alleviated. Aim at that. Being good at getting along with people is a huge asset. Employers value that above a lot of other things. Try to get a part time job now, even if it's only two days a week.

thanks! ive got a job now but im not a big fan. poor management and really dramatic. im applying to a fancy steak house sometime within the next two weeks to be a busboy, got a lotta good info from a former employee.

[phantom13]

thanks a bunch for all the replies! ill wait till im 18 and then im out haha, i wrote this post up a low point but ive felt that way quite a few times so figured id share. yeahi havent even been to my dads house in months. he used to be very controlling but now its as though he doesnt even care

[Rose76]

Originally Posted by phantom13

thanks! ive got a job now but im not a big fan. poor management and really dramatic. im applying to a fancy steak house sometime within the next two weeks to be a busboy, got a lotta good info from a former employee.

Good luck getting in at the steak house. Wait staff in those places can make good money. From busboy, you could move up. Then there are restaurants everywhere you go.